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lmnop1038
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« on: July 12, 2017, 04:54:30 PM »


Please help. I'm struggling. Kasi yung boyfriend ko super close sa mga babae. Eversince, maski nung high school, mostly, girls kasama niya. And ito nga, nung mag-college na, naging magkaklase kami at nagkakilala kami. At first, okay ako don, Actually, dun nga kami nag-start, We have this common friend na girl na I think he's considering her as a bestfriend. Si boyfriend ang unang nagkagusto sakin, and then I learned to love him nung nalaman kong gusto niya ko. Hindi siya mahirap mahalin saka lapitan, kaya nga maraming babae ang komportable sa kanya. Si common friend pa yung isa sa mga unang nakaalam na gusto ko na rin noon si boyfriend, at ini-spill agad yun ni common friend kay boyfriend kahit na sabi kong wag niyang sabihin. Matagal din kami ni boyfriend, after a year, hindi na kami naging magblockmates for 2 years and then nung sumunod na 2 years, naging magkaklase na ulit kami, doon na lumabas yung pagkaselosa ko kasi madalas ko nga siya makasama at saka madalas ko siyang makitang makipag-interact with girls. Napagtiisan ko yun. And eto nga, hanggang sa paggraduate namin, dala ko yung problemang yun sa kanya. Nasa point na kami ng malapit nang pagbebreak up, kasi nagdadalawang isip pa rin ako kung magho-hold on pa ko or maglelet go na. Pareho kaming nag-aadjust sa situation, at palagi yun pero bumabalik lang ulit sa dating gawi. Ngayon, sa huli naming usap, napagsinungalingan niya pala ko over the past 4 months. Nabi-bitter-an na pala siya sakin kaya madalas siyang cold at parang kailangan ko palagng mamalimos ng attention sa kanya. Kaya talagang nagdadalawang isip ako ngayon e. Mahal ko siya pero ewan ko nalang kung matutuloy ko pa. Hindi ba tama na ilayo ko siya sa mga babaeng kaibigan niya? Actually nga dapat gawin niya yun kahit di ko sabihin sa kanya kasi ako nga iwas na ko sa mga guy friends ko kasi ayokong nagseselos siya pero sakin, nabibitter-an siya kasi inilalayo ko siya sa mga kaibigan niya. Pwede naman siyang makipagkaibigan sa iba, sa mga lalaki ganon, bakit pa kasi kailngang sa babae siya close? So help me, should I still hold on at saka intindihin nalang siya or i-let go na lang?
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« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2017, 12:09:50 AM »


if u love him why would u let go... dont just overthink girl. if di pa naman sya nagchecheat despite the fact na close sya sa mga girls, then give him the benefit of the doubt naman...if di na tlga kaya, approach him, tell him ur struggles. sabhin mo sknya hindi dahil sa makitid utak mo kaya ayaw mo sya makipag close, pero let him see na u were trying ur best to avoid guys pra di sya magselos...if it got through him then its great, but if he's really dense, and say na makitid ka, wag muna maghiwalay, let him be close with girls since friends lng naman..kaw na lang mag adjust if u still love him... as long as he never cheated before then let him be a friend to all the girls in town, as long as when it comes to you, he can make u feel really special..
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« Reply #2 on: July 14, 2017, 12:12:02 AM »


but if its taking a toll on you girl. ung tipong super stress ka na about it kasi para sayo hindi ganun ang loyalty and faithfulness, then, let it fo. either he will realize what he has been doing, or he will just really let u go...
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« Reply #3 on: July 17, 2017, 12:59:49 PM »


first of all ate, we cannot impose our own ideals sa ibang person dahil if we do that, then we are stepping on their toes. tinatapakan natin ang existence nila. who are we to tell them what to do? right? we don't have the right to put our own ideals sa pagkatao nila so we shouldn't expect too much from them.

second, we shouldn't manipulate people just for the sake of our ideals again. kung ilalayo mo siya sa girl na friends niya, it would be just the same idea as manipulating him. again, who we are to decide for them? right? so we must not manipulate a person, same thing with guilt tripping, it's a way of manipulating someone's judgment or decision making to give in to your interest. and never make him choose between you and his girlfriends dahil that's another way of manipulating. making him choose won't be fair sa side niya.

third, in the first place, alam mo na na ganyan siya very friendly with girls and stuff like that. you just have to make your way around it. that's him. we can't change a person, but we could help a person realize what needs to be changed and change comes from within.

these are principles na pwede ko ishare sayo in terms of relationships. however, part of being in a relationship is nurturing or maintaining a relationship to grow. in short, we gotta take care of it and part of taking care of it is not putting your relationship at risk. and when i say risk, anything that would cause conflicts or trouble sa relationship. kung mga girlfriends nya ang magccause ng relationship niyo to be at risk, then that is really something that needs to be addressed and change for the better
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