Single for so many years then suddenly attacked by a guy's affection

[Marisa Margatroid]

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Okay, 19 years na akong single and still--- single pa rin naman hanggang ngayon  I have this crush from four years ago. That time tied up na siya so I haven't got the chance to take my feelings for him to the next level. Then right now... single na siya  Break na sila ng first love niya na ka-relasyon niya rin ng almost 3 years (tagal ah!) We only talk to each other through chat since medyo malayo-layo ang distance namin, but we're somewhat close four years ago... Lagi kaming nagkukulitan sa chat...  then I noticed that he's starting to get cheesy and romantic. He began telling me sweet nothings... it started out as a joke but eventually he said that he's starting to fall for me... before I knew, I'm sooo much overwhelmed by his affection...(overwhelmed in a good way) then he began caring for me... he's so much interested in my life... things like that... and ME... being single for 19 years (never ever had bf since the beginning of time) for the record, I've never ever experienced a guy's affection and it's just too much overwhelming that I don't know how to handle it! I'm very much paranoid... and sometimes I can't restrain myself to give back his affection, which I think is kind of... lowly? parang ang cheap? dapat pa-hard-to-get muna para naman irespeto ka. And I always doubt his feelings for me... I don't think he could call it "love" already when we're just talking through chat... but we wanted see each other... of what happened after four years... if we're still the same...  How do you handle an "attack" of affection after being single for so many years? It's so hard to trust but the overwhelming affection is very addictive and it's drowning me completely... 

[Heartless Herptile]

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It happens.

I understand how you feel. I had my first gf at 29. Kind of late if you think about it. I was also confused that time. I didn't know how to make "ligaw" and all the other things that goes with entering a relationship. Initially I felt it was out of character and awkward for me. Then I figured everyone has to start somewhere. Yes, I got advice (whether by asking or voluntarily given) but in the end my actions were my own. After all these years you still remember each other and are now speaking again. You're both currently single and can already make choices. I think the best way is to actually meet in person for you to find out.

Just don't feel obligated to return someone's affection. You have to also genuinely like the person. Your apprehension is understandable in this day and age. But at the same time, don't think "too much" and overanalyze every situation beyond what is reasonable. Doing so will get in the way of real feelings.

Hoping for the best.

[Marisa Margatroid]

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It happens.

I understand how you feel. I had my first gf at 29. Kind of late if you think about it. I was also confused that time. I didn't know how to make "ligaw" and all the other things that goes with entering a relationship. Initially I felt it was out of character and awkward for me. Then I figured everyone has to start somewhere. Yes, I got advice (whether by asking or voluntarily given) but in the end my actions were my own. After all these years you still remember each other and are now speaking again. You're both currently single and can already make choices. I think the best way is to actually meet in person for you to find out.

Just don't feel obligated to return someone's affection. You have to also genuinely like the person. Your apprehension is understandable in this day and age. But at the same time, don't think "too much" and overanalyze every situation beyond what is reasonable. Doing so will get in the way of real feelings.

Hoping for the best.

Wow... that is totally the same for me... It felt very much awkward... Para bang minsan hindi ko matanggap na kinikilig ako to the highest level.. haha and I think you're right. We have to draw the line, we have to start something kahit na mahirap...
And you're right again, I'm thinking too much about this and overanalyzing the situation since I'm too scared to start my first ever relationship... I'm scared of getting hurt...

Well, I wanted to meet him again... that's what we planned anyway but I'm just looking for the perfect timing Thanks for the reply! ==>newbie here -___-

[IAMRJ]

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naku nakakatakot nga yan! attack of the decepticons 

mahirap kasi kung online lang, iba pa rin yung nakikilala mo yung tao in person, tama ka mahirap magtiwala so i suggest kilalanin mo muna s'yang mabuti. good luck s'yo! 

[Marisa Margatroid]

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naku nakakatakot nga yan! attack of the decepticons 

mahirap kasi kung online lang, iba pa rin yung nakikilala mo yung tao in person, tama ka mahirap magtiwala so i suggest kilalanin mo muna s'yang mabuti. good luck s'yo! 

Haha "attack of the deceptions"... one of my friends told me the same. Baka lokohin lang daw ako.. Ang sarap kasing maniwala  Yung feeling na single and alone ka for so many years then nakaranas bigla ng affection... Nakakakilig and somewhat life-changing... haha.. anyway, kilala ko naman siya and nag meet na kami in person. But that's from four years ago... kaya nga kinikilala ko muna talaga. Thanks for the goodluck, if ever, first ever love ko siya... haha...

[Heartless Herptile]

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Sige, you're welcome. Hope it works out.