What to do? I really want to win her back, Need love advice po

[chardychard]

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my girlfriend and I have this relationship for about six months before she went abroad, during that time, we were truly, deeply, madly inlove with each other, we insisted to give our best since she well be leaving soon to work abroad. after the next months we got both busy, pero try pa rin to have consistent communication, the n we have plans, i plan on visiting her after a few months, masaya sya, 2 months before my trip there, i got so busy working, nagpaalam nman ako sa kanya that ill be busy during that month, she said shell understand nman daw, the next month or 2 weeks before my trip, i was contacting her, para nga idiscuss ung pagpunta ko dun, she was busy daw sorry daw, but she started to tell me na lng bigla if okay lng ba daw na cool off kami, and remain best  friends, anuman daw decision ko shell be happy to accept, i said bakit ambilis nman and pagusapan n lng namin yun pagpunta ko there. so i continued preparing the week before my trip, i decided to tell her na mahl na mahal ko sya personally na lng pagpunta ko dun, work on some gifts i made a painting for her, shared some movies sa hard drive na ibibigay ko, super efffort na related gifts. and when i arrive there she seem okay nman, we have happy moments  nung namasyal, but nung sasabihin ko na, ako ang nasurprise, hiniling nya na bigyan nya daw ng chance ung suitor nya, na dumating lng nman nug time nya na sabi nya busy sya, it was so sad, i almost cried, and sabi nya napagod na raw kasi sya and ngayon daw naramdaman ko ung pain na naamdaman nya before when i communicated with her less. My only intention was to tell her everything personally, but i got surprised instead, we parted crying and i still feel sad sa mga nangyari up to now, i explained to her my side over messages online and tell her i truly love her and have plans for our future,so far nagrereply nman sya but insisted i had the chance na raw and bigyan nya nman daw ng chace ung guy.

Dont know what to do? How woul i react? i feel there's a misunderstanding lng po and i really feel di ko lng tlaga nasabi at naipadama na mahal na mahal ko talaga sya.

Option 1: what would you feel if you're on the side of the girl if i stopped muna communicating over 3 weeks and tell her im fine now and moved on with my life and tanggap ko na mga nangyari but i love to continue the friendship we have and start from scratch again but i have to be there working at nasusundo sya kasi i feel tlagang mahilig sya sa presence.

Option 2:  i would surprise her na lng after a week and send 3x a day love messages or quotes via facebook message, and a real handwritten love letter once a week and try to court her from long distance to prove that i rally love her na totoo ung mga sinasabi ko while im applying for a work there now and sabayan ung suitor nya sa pagligaw sa kanya when i arrive there to work.

Share me your thoughts on this po, i feel i really need to be there and work there too to have a fair chance.
I feel if di ko ito magawa, pagsisihan ko ito habangbuhay.
i really need the advice how should i react and solve this problem po? Thanks and God Bless!

[Marisa Margatroid]

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tskkk... hirap naman ng situation mo... I feel your pain, nakakapanghinayang na mahal mo talaga siya then ganun lang ang gagawin sa iyo...

Let me clear this before everything else... you two are in a relationship right? Girlfriend mo na siya... bakit may suitor siya? Bakit siya nagpaligaw sa iba kung tied up na siya sa iyo??

Kailangan talaga ng communication and presence sa isang relationship... but most specially you need to understand each other and make sacrifices... I've seen successful long distance relationship and kaming mga girls (at least in my case) nakakayanan naman namin yan, basta ba mahal talaga namin yung guy, we will endure.. and lalo pa kung nakikita naming nag-e-effort yung guy and talagang mahal din kami... I will only set my eyes on you

Assess yourself, nagkulang ka ba para iparamdam sa kanya na mahal mo siya? Kung hindi it's not your fault... and sa tingin mo ba mahal ka talaga ng gf mo? No offense but I suspect she's not loving you the same way you love her...

[andi]

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May options pa talagang nilagay si kuya.

Well, I think nasa tao naman yun eh.

If she's not strong and committed enough to make the relationship work, why bother di ba?

LDRs require a lot of effort on both parties para mag-work.
If one of those parties fail to make that required effort, di talaga sya tatagal.

Maybe yang girl mo is one of those people who really needs to feel lang talaga the physical presence ng special someone nya.
Kung malayo kayo sa isa't isa ngayon at dyan pa lang eh gumive-up na sya, then I think it's better for you to move on.