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i met this guy when i broke up with my ex ad basically he did comfort me. he's kind and wise.

i am contemplating about having a relationship with him. initially,i really am not attracted.but when i get to know him, i liked him. pero im still not attracted. call me superficial but i'd like to have myself a good looking guy XD. he's handsome. nice features. but he's fat T_T.sorry. i am aware with the fact tht looks aint everything. but atleast diba, you have to be attracted to a person to have intense feelings toward him diba?

he said "i love you" it seemed sincere. fyi he hasn't said that for 3 years coz . one time we were together. it's intimate. i just felt like saying it too. so i did. he was touched. but now, as i asses what i feel, i guess the word "love" is a strong term to describe what i feel for him.

another concern, when we're together..he often says im hot. one time, he'll look at me and say..."(sigh) you just don't understand how hot you are" XD . i wud like to believe im flattered, but i don't like it when a guy uses the term "hot" towards me. it just makes them look so lewd for me. for that matter, a  thought popped up in my head, maybe he "loves" me because im hot so to speak .

but when im with him, im happy.parang his fatness doesn't really bother me. pero when im all alone and i ponder on things,it feels so wrong.parang...the idea of me with him is wrong.

he's straightforward. he said he likes me as his partner. we joked about how many kids we want e.well he initiated it. i was actually shocked. he made me feel that i have a certain obligation to him XD eerie.

so what do you think . btw please do not judge me. some might say im a bad, superficial beyatch, whatever. i am completely aware im not perfect ok? your advice would help. judgements...i don't need 'em at this point forward. im tired thinking 'bout this.


thanks in advance

[halikniHUDAZ]

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one thing big OUCH..i feel bad..(i'm a fat guy eh..) and i've been in this situation..i'm the fat guy who cares for someone after a traumatic

break up with his ex..she was an acquaintance at first..and i'm fresh from a break up too..needlessly to say she is a friend of the person i

broke up with..so i did comfort her..i'm her personal listener..after her depression she shown sweetness..at first prang wla lang..so ending

tingin ng iba is kami..she is acting like my girlfriend..and we even allowed to be in a mock wedding in the school's wedding both..it was her

friends idea..after 6 months..i fall for her..and i enjoy the nonesense talks..and one day i wake up telling her i love her and she telling she

loves me too..but to make the long story short..after a month or so she got his new boyfriend..and it was not me..i end up so totally pissed..

kasi parang naiwan ako sa ere prang pinaasa ako..tapos "TAAAADAAAAA..LOOK ME BF NA AKONG BAGO.." anyways..about advise..


let me analyze the words you describe to what you feel..nagugulahan din kasi ako.. ..you said you are superficial person..kasi

mahalaga sayo yung physical attraction..(at least di ka hipokrito na ideny ang fact na yun..for me its an up..)attraction actually is not

the main base intense feeling.. ..for me its chemistry and harmony..as long both of you can jive along and free to be yourself..

(well like i say for me lang yun ha..)..well about the fact that your "HOT" why not ask him..the same question..does he loves you

physically (because HOT dazwatyacallit..)..otherwise you'll have that question in the back of your mind..going to this part naman

the idea of him and you is wrong..i don't get it..is it your idea or is it your pride saying its wrong..kala ko ba ok naman kayong magkasama..?

you should atleast tell the audience which part of it is wrong..like his-fat-and-your-hot-thing ba..?kasi if that's the kind of idea then it

will be shallow..(im not saying you are shallow..what im saying that this kind of idea is shallow.. )..moving forward atleast be true to the

person..whether he or you initiated the idea. and you don't like it..why not tell the person..other wise if you participate you and get along

with it then it would be giving a false hope..and that will hurt the person more compared to being lied to..

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I want to be honest, I think there is little hope for this guy... Pero kung willing kang bigyan sya ng chance eh baka may chance din na mahalin mo rin sya 

[halikniHUDAZ]

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I want to be honest, I think there is little hope for this guy... Pero kung willing kang bigyan sya ng chance eh baka may chance din na mahalin mo rin sya 

theres an old saying nga nman..

"better to marry the person who loves you than the person you love.."

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Nothing wrong in wanting an attractive partner. It's your preference anyway. If some may call you shallow for saying "I want an attractive (tall/handsome/well-built, etc) bf" I guess that can't be helped but bottom line is that it's what you want. Do a self-assessment if you would like to give it a chance. Just don't let it progress too long and give him too much hope. If you find you'd rather not then let him down easy as soon as possible.

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Basically you are mixing up "feelings" and "logic".
"Feelings" are not "logical".

So someone might "feel" they do not like "black people".
There is no problem with that.
On the other hand if your feeling cause you to go out and kill black people, then there is a problem.
Unless your "feelings" are hurting you or other people, there is not really a problem.

another concern, when we're together..he often says im hot. one time, he'll look at me and say..."(sigh) you just don't understand how hot you are" XD . i wud like to believe im flattered, but i don't like it when a guy uses the term "hot" towards me. it just makes them look so lewd for me. for that matter, a  thought popped up in my head, maybe he "loves" me because im hot so to speak

You are hot Get over it.
Guys can have the same problem. I am losing my looks now because I am getting old
Often when I was younger I would get picked up by women in bars.
And one thing would lead to another, and I would sometimes end up feeling used.

In school I was pretty smart. Other people would want to be my friend.
Sometimes I would worry they where being my "friend" just to use me.

Even here (not on the forum). Do people want to be my "friend" because of who I am, or because of "me".
IRL I have had women telling me, they will be my mistress, is it because they like me, or so they can use me

Basically you just have to use good judgement.

so what do you think . btw please do not judge me. some might say im a bad, superficial beyatch, whatever. i am completely aware im not perfect ok? your advice would help. judgements...i don't need 'em at this point forward. im tired thinking 'bout this.

Many people call me a "pervert","womanizer","heavy drinker","arrogant" etc.
I don't intentionally hurt anyone, and how I lead my life is none of their business.


My wife is a beyatch, she is annoying. Lots of people say she is pretty, which she is, but not in a conventional sense.
Sometimes we fight like cat and dog.
She loves me despite my imperfections.
I love the beyatch also, even thought she drives me crazy
Love is not rational or logical

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Basically you are mixing up "feelings" and "logic".
"Feelings" are not "logical".

So someone might "feel" they do not like "black people".
There is no problem with that.
On the other hand if your feeling cause you to go out and kill black people, then there is a problem.
Unless your "feelings" are hurting you or other people, there is not really a problem.
You are hot Get over it.
Guys can have the same problem. I am losing my looks now because I am getting old
Often when I was younger I would get picked up by women in bars.
And one thing would lead to another, and I would sometimes end up feeling used.

In school I was pretty smart. Other people would want to be my friend.
Sometimes I would worry they where being my "friend" just to use me.

Even here (not on the forum). Do people want to be my "friend" because of who I am, or because of "me".
IRL I have had women telling me, they will be my mistress, is it because they like me, or so they can use me

Basically you just have to use good judgement.

Many people call me a "pervert","womanizer","heavy drinker","arrogant" etc.
I don't intentionally hurt anyone, and how I lead my life is none of their business.


My wife is a beyatch, she is annoying. Lots of people say she is pretty, which she is, but not in a conventional sense.
Sometimes we fight like cat and dog.
She loves me despite my imperfections.
I love the beyatch also, even thought she drives me crazy
Love is not rational or logical

T_T thanks

would you mind giving me your facebook account ?

i seriously wanna be friends with you. not just because you're intelligent and wise and all that but... you're very kind ^_^ thanks again.

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Many people call me a "pervert","womanizer","heavy drinker","arrogant" etc.
I don't intentionally hurt anyone, and how I lead my life is none of their business.


My wife is a beyatch, she is annoying. Lots of people say she is pretty, which she is, but not in a conventional sense.
Sometimes we fight like cat and dog.
She loves me despite my imperfections.
I love the beyatch also, even thought she drives me crazy
Love is not rational or logical

i so love this part of this article..