what do you do if you find out n preggy ka

[shygirl]

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please give me advice..im scared i dont know what to do,baka kse preggy aq eh masyadong complicated ang situation.i mean di ko alam kung pnu sasabihin dun sa guy kse wla nman siya dito s pinas.and di ko alam if pnu sasabihin situation ko..plsss help.i need advice

[pastor paradox]

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Pretty simple, start planning for having a child.
Also decide whether or not you want the child.
If you are unable to provide for the child, maybe you should consider giving the child up for adoption.
I have no idea how you find a perspective,responsible family to adopt.
Maybe talk to a priest, lawyer etc.
But lots of families want kids.

[halikniHUDAZ]

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ahm..ang masasabi ko lang bat ka naman matatakot..?wala naman reason pra matakot ka eh..not unless na iniisip mo na irereject ka ng lalake..

[empress]

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well, maybe if i were you..i would be nervous myself too, knowing the fact that you are not secured. well basically,that's what women are looking for kasi, security.


"d di ko alam if pnu sasabihin situation ko"

you don't have communication with him? fb? phone?

foreigner?

di mo ba alam kung pano mo ipaparating or natatakot kang iparating?

vague kasi ang storya. but i totally agree with wht what mr. paradox said. follow his advice.

[C H O Y]

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please give me advice..im scared i dont know what to do,baka kse preggy aq eh masyadong complicated ang situation.i mean di ko alam kung pnu sasabihin dun sa guy kse wla nman siya dito s pinas.and di ko alam if pnu sasabihin situation ko..plsss help.i need advice

Sure na ba? or better yet e sure mo muna para atleast safe yung bata.

[pastor paradox]

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well, maybe if i were you..i would be nervous myself too, knowing the fact that you are not secured. well basically,that's what women are looking for kasi, security.

Unless she was raped, there is no excuse for an unplanned pregnancy.
And in the Philippines even in the case of rape, abortion is not a legal option.
Legal Abortion is very safe, but in the cases of illegal abortion it is very dangerous.
If not done properly the woman can bleed to death, get an infection etc.

Filipina have to start taking responsibility for their own bodies.
In theory it should be equal responsibility, but filipino men are very irresponsible.
Also men can not get pregnant, women can
I will not give a morality lecture, but a practical lecture.
What ever a person chooses to do with other consenting adults is their business.

It is very simple.
If you are having casual sex, make sure you use 2 forms of protection.
You should always use condoms, when the man penetrates your vagina or butas ng puwit there is a chance of you catching an STD.
Condom stop this risk, if used properly.
If you are too dry (some women are) proper water based lubricants should be used, otherwise the condom can break.
A backup form of protection should be used.
If the man cums on other parts of you, or if he "leaks" before he cums, and any fluid enters your vagina, you can get pregnant.
Despite what the catholic church saids, the calender method does not work.
Also you should talk to a female doctor about these things. If you can not afford 300-500 for a consult, you should not be having sex
If you can't afford 100-200 per month for pills you should not be having sex.
I am not sure how much condoms cost, since my wife usually buys them for me, but if you can not afford those also, you should not be having sex
And 300-500 for a consult and 100-200 per month for pills and condoms, is a lot cheaper then getting pregnant.
Or catching a disease and either dying, or spending a lot more to get it treated.

Anyway in your case, you should see a Dr as soon as possible.
That way she (always best if you get a woman doctor) can make sure everything is ok.
And don't expect too much from the guy.

[empress]

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and apparently, she was not raped. so there's no excuse
i love the last statement: "don't expect too much from the guy." hehehe

[andi]

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First things first, be sure!

There's no use worrying about nothing.

If you really are pregnant then maybe you should tell the father before anyone else. Gauge his reaction and start planning for the future.

If he's man enough to stand up for his responsibilities then well and good (marriage notwithstanding). If he won't, then that would be unfortunate but you should be strong for you and your baby. You have your parents, your friends, and other loved ones that will support you.

Yes, they will be angry at first, who wouldn't? Yes, people will talk. But then, they always  talk, don't they? Besides, single parents (not just single mothers but fathers also) are not considered as pariahs anymore. They dwell freely amongst us now and there are special laws that protect them especially in the workplace.

[pastor paradox]

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First things first, be sure!
There's no use worrying about nothing.
If you really are pregnant then maybe you should tell the father before anyone else. Gauge his reaction and start planning for the future.

I assumed she knew positively she was pregnant.
Go get a pregnancy test and find out for sure.
Make sure you follow the directions exactly on the box. If I remember correctly it is not 100% reliable until 4 weeks after last period.
If positive go see the doc.
There can be many reasons for a missed/late period. Stess etc.
Also if many women live in the same house for a long time, all their periods usually get in sync.
So even other women can affect your period.

So maybe you are just late.
If you are late, learn from you lesson.
A long time ago a GF of mine was late by like 2-3 weeks. I smartened up after that.
I never got an STD, but I smartened up after my room mate had problems peeing for 6 weeks and had to go for all sorts of nasty injections.

So good advice.

If he's man enough to stand up for his responsibilities then well and good (marriage notwithstanding). If he won't, then that would be unfortunate but you should be strong for you and your baby. You have your parents, your friends, and other loved ones that will support you.

The father has the right to know.
Marriage because of an unwanted pregnancy is not always a good idea.
It depends on the circumstances.

Yes, they will be angry at first, who wouldn't? Yes, people will talk. But then, they always  talk, don't they? Besides, single parents (not just single mothers but fathers also) are not considered as pariahs anymore. They dwell freely amongst us now and there are special laws that protect them especially in the workplace.

Exactly.
People talk lots about me
Personally I don't really give a crap
Even if you are pregnant, and you end up being a single mom, it might be a blessing in disguise.
It is not the end of the world

[shygirl]

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thanks for hte advice...well i talk the guy and he assure me that everything will be alright,but....he is far away and one more thing he is not filipino so sometimes its hard to express or how to tell my feelings....but thanks again guys....even i very depress this very moment reading your advice makes me strong.....

[Thitoh BhoY]

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naks hap breed

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Talk to your family and loved ones... Isipin mo kung kaya mo bang palakihin yung bata ng maayos. Kung hindi mo kaya, adoption is better than abortion... Be strong!

[shygirl]

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yah`...sbi nga nla baby is a blessing cguro my mgandang plan s god kya nangyari i2...i never regret having this cguro gulong gulo lng aq kse nga  npakalau nya ang hirap ng situation....