Why are most men intimidated by smart and successful women?

[PatientElle®]

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Well, think about it: would you like to go out or be with someone who was scared of you ALL the time? You're smart so you'd know how to separate work and your personal life. It's just that you're in a work environment and thus have to act professional-like. It's better outside or after work, then you're not in your "boss" mode. It may even have something to do with the usual misgivings of dating a colleague/boss/subordinate (usually frowned upon at most businesses).

Tagalugin natin: "Gusto sana kita yayain kumain sa labas/manood ng sine/mag-coffee pero natatakot ako sayo e. Baka mamaya utus-utusan mo lang ako kasi gusto mo nasusunod ka."

Somebody just needs to bite the bullet, think "never say die" and ask you out without saying "I'm scared you'll eat me alive." Sure you might turn them down but I'll bet you'll still respect that person for stepping up, especially if he's still gracious in his disappointment.

You're right. I guess the guy is not just the one who's set to tame the "shrew" so to speak. Yun ang bansag nila sakin e, mashado daw akong shrewd pagdating sa trabaho. I bamboozle my way through when I think there is a need to step up and speak up.

Iba rin naman ako pag sa mga friends. I'm usually the no-nonsense type of friend. I'm brutally frank and honest pagdating sa advice sa kanila. Funny noh, pag sa sarili na ang hirap i-apply yung mga logical words of wisdom I usually impart. Ganun talaga nga daw.

[PatientElle®]

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Herptile: Your analysis really make sense, Davy Jones did a good job.

           Most of Filipino men asserts their authority specially in a relationship, they are afraid of the notion to be "Andres De Saya".
           But Filipino men attitude and norms change through time, in accordance of Generations they belong wherein there is Baby Boomers 
           (post war babies),Gen X (born 60's-late 70's), Gen Y/Millenials (born 80's to 2000) and the Gen Z of the current decade.
           Baby Boomers and Gen X are those conservative and Maria Clara eras, while the Millennials and Gen Z are the liberated and open
           minded stocks.
CynicalandJaded: I sent you a message, maybe we can brainstorm our ideas about this topic, I also work in corporate world but now focusing on Organization Development, a cup of coffee maybe will do.

I am also doing organizational development among other things, because the current structure in place is affecting the department I'm currently heading. (May pagka-jack of all trades ako e, overworked and underpaid corpo slave )

I will respond to your PM. Thank you.

[PatientElle®]

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Good for you. Honestly, that type of woman is getting extinct today and I wouldn’t mind you to be that way. Men who say things like that to you are just giving excuses because they can’t accept that you’re better than them. It’s no harm really to be that way, that means you’re an  independent person and that’s a good attribute to have. Rare indeed especially for a female.

Don’t stop being like that, achieve as much as you can because someday you’re going to look up and say to your kid “I did that” and that is one priceless thing. 

Thank you for the words of encouragement Doc. It made me realize that somehow, despite all the things I'm going through, I know that I can still depend on myself and my upbringing to save me from being corrupted by the system.

Class with a capital "C". Sana

[Heartless Herptile]

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Singles love company with other singles kaya nagkakaintindihan e, hehe.

[PatientElle®]

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Truly

[Heartless Herptile]

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Why do you need "taming?" You're not the enemy. Terms that include "conquering man/women" really shouldn't be used. I know it's just a term but it's about working together. If I approach you thinking that you're someone I have to "conquer" or "tame" how would you feel about that? Not good I'll bet.

Just remember that guys really do admire women of your stature. They're just intimidated and utter some words they may not even really mean just to boost their confidence and summon up enough guts to speak with you.

[andi]

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ngayon ko lang nakita ang thread na 'to ah..

nakaka-relate ako...

[Heartless Herptile]

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^ Ah? Sige same advice na din for you.

[PatientElle®]

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ngayon ko lang nakita ang thread na 'to ah..

nakaka-relate ako...

Can you share your experiences? We can compare notes

[andi]

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nagka-selective amnesia ako sis. di ko na inaalala ang mga baga2x na ayaw kong maalala! ahaha

All I can remember is me drunkenly singing "You've Made Me Stronger" (Regine Vealasquez mode lng).

[PatientElle®]

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nagka-selective amnesia ako sis. di ko na inaalala ang mga baga2x na ayaw kong maalala! ahaha

All I can remember is me drunkenly singing "You've Made Me Stronger" (Regine Vealasquez mode lng).

Hehe! Penge tips! Gusto ko ren magka-selective amnesia!

[Heartless Herptile]

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Get drunk, too?

[PatientElle®]

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Get drunk, too?

Ayy...nakakalasing ba ang kape or iced tea?

[Heartless Herptile]

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Hmmm, let me put it this way....you drink too much of those and your kidneys might bail out on you. If that happens you won't even have time to remember to forget.

[DavyJones]

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Hmmm, let me put it this way....you drink too much of those and your kidneys might bail out on you. If that happens you won't even have time to remember to forget.

to be honest drinking will not help you forget. in the end it will just make you realize unconsciously that you are stupid doing such.