Newly Single

[PatientElle®]

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For the longest time, I have been the other half of a whole.

Now that the relationship officially ended, I found myself wandering aimlessly during weekends. I have been disoriented and confused and frustrated.

One of my many woes then, when I was still in a relationship, was the fact that I had so little time for myself, my friends, my family. But now, I have all the time in the world to do all the things I used to just long for. However, I'm at a loss on how and where to start. It made me realize that I got detached from the world when I hooked up with my now ex.

Funny how it still hurts to pertain to him as my EX. It just solidifies the depressing end of our relationship, a relationship I invested so much in.

With this, I would like to welcome myself back to the world, the one that continued to turn even when my life seemed to have stopped.

[Heartless Herptile]

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Hello! Let me be the first to welcome you to PLF. Hope you have fun and make new friends here.

One step at a time.

[PatientElle®]

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Thank you. I am looking forward to exchanging my sentiments with other people who've been there, done that and will keep on holding on to their faith that someday, they'd find that one person who's just right for them. For us.

[Heartless Herptile]

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Good, you impress me with your positive outlook. I'm sure everyone here would be glad to share their thoughts with you as well.

Enjoy!

[DocEdd]

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I’m sorry for what happen to your loss. I know you feel a little bit painful as of now but you have to endure. It’s part of “moving on”. Pain is inevitable and its part of love, there is no love lost without sacrificing something in return.

An end of something is a start of a new beginning

When something ends, it does not mean it ends completely. In fact it’s a start of something new, maybe even something great. You might ask, “what is it?” Well, it’s for you to know, but as you’ve said, you didn’t have any time for your family then maybe this time is the right time to get back where you left off from them. Remember, no one in this world can help you more than your own family so it’s very important to be close to them.

Start with yourself

When something ends, always go back to yourself. The reason why that “something” is gone is because you’ve made a wrong choice or there is something wrong with who you are, knowing yourself more will lead you to more mature decisions in your life thus leading you into less “pit falls” in life.

No one can make you whole except yourself

We spend our whole lifetime searching for that “other one” that can make us whole but little do we know that us humans be “whole” just by ourselves. We tend to forget other things that are important in our life like family and friends and devote ourselves to that “other one” because it makes us “whole” The question here is what if that “other one” is gone, would you still be whole? Again, you cannot rely on other people to make you “whole” only you can do that. Only you can have the choice of becoming independent and strong.

Everything that happens in our life is to make us strong

Don’t ever choose to give up in your life (take note I did not say “partner”), people who choose that often fails in life. What happens to your life, happens for a good reason but it always leads to one thing, and that is to make you strong. For that to happen you have to give something in return, that is pain. Lots and lots of pain. So if you’re in a struggle right now, do not fear it. I ask you to endure it. In the long run, it will make you strong as a person and as a human being, not only for you but for your loved ones as well.
   

[PatientElle®]

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@Doc:

Thank you for the precious pieces of wisdom. I truly appreciate the reinforcements you imparted. I believe those words that you wrote are the basics of moving on. Part of me acknowledge the logic and the sense in those. Accepting that I am undergoing that process of moving on is another thing.

As a woman who have founded most of my simple life dreams with someone I deeply cared for, the bitterness of recognizing the progression of leaving behind my past, is and will always be the hardest part in all of this.

The new beginning would be the realignment of my perspectives. Believing in someone and a lot of somethings, again, for the longest time, is hard enough as it is. Because the humility in accepting that my beliefs no longer hold true is a struggle in itself that I have chosen to overcome in order to pave a better way for me in my quest to build a better me.

Another battle I am slowly overcoming is the emotional healing for the badly bruised ego I was left with. For all the verbal, physical and emotional abuse I had to endure from the person I have chosen to love. The insecurities, the endless and constant questions regarding my traits and my own character which led me to finally put an end to the destruction that will eventually come my way if I stay with him despite of and inspite of.

Thankfully, I know that this too, shall pass. I know my strength of character will resurface and give me the grace and courage to emerge from this with my head held up high.

My deepest gratitute to you for extending your sentiments. I feel better.

[PatientElle®]

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Good, you impress me with your positive outlook. I'm sure everyone here would be glad to share their thoughts with you as well.

Enjoy!

Thanks po! See you around here. I think I'll frequent this site since sharing my sentiments seem to help ease the pain a great deal.

[Heartless Herptile]

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You're welcome. We do hope you join the discussions. Could get a little crazy at times (may I say it) but that's what makes it happy. See you around!

[Thitoh BhoY]

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sinong crazy!!!!!

[Heartless Herptile]

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Yung unang nag-react, defensive kasi. 

[Thitoh BhoY]

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sinong defensive!!!!!!!!!!!

[Heartless Herptile]

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Ako!

[Thitoh BhoY]

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kala ko ikaw ehh

[Heartless Herptile]

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Oy OT na naman, nakakahiya sa TS, ganda pa naman ng thread nya o.

[PatientElle®]

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