My GF Left me...

[shinobi]

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Well

Im sad because mY GF left me..
I really love her a lot and I still do
What happened?? I dont know
Why do girls say they love you and then the next instant that love fades away...

When she had a job... the first 2 months she no salary yet.. so I provided for her,,, took care of her sometimes washed her clothes so that she can sleep and just wake up a meal already prepared for her..

her work was hard sometimes demanded nightshift hours because she worked at an information desk for a semiconductor company...

so i provided her monthly vitamins so she cant be sick, and from time to time gave her groceries...

I love her so much and she loved me too.. every day was so sweet...

i made her promise not to entertain suitors... she said i just trust her which i did..

but after 4 months at work she sad yes to one technician there and made him a BF

i caught them 2 months later and she said sorry and she broke up with him and she said she chose me and that she still loves me...

I forgave her..

after a week though (sometime December 18 last year) she never contacted me again or showed she loves me still
then i went to her house and asked if tehre is anything wrong wth our relationship. she said she dosent know..

and told me dont come there at Christmass and new year. After that she never replied to my texts and messages... she sometimes turned off her phone

I asked her sister whats wrong... her sister said she needed space..

its been almost a month.... She even deleted me as a friend in facebook last january 3...
She never gave me closure or reason why she is indifferent now towards me...

I feel so sad... I dont want to lose her..

what should i Do..??

[tempgirl]

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i'm sorry to hear that... isa siguro sa pinakamasakit na pwedeng mangyari eh yung iwanan ka sa ere without even explaining why? what happened? what did you do wrong? all the questions seems to be unanswered.

parang narinig ko dati na mas mabuti pa yung iwanan mo yung tao na alam nila kung bakit sila umiiyak kesa yung iwanan mo sila na walang kaalam alam kung bakit sila umiiyak...

it may be unfair on your part but... you dont need her for closure... sad as it may seem you have to find that out by yourself. di mo siya pwede pilitin kung siya mismo nagtatago na sayo.

So what do you do if you’ve been left hanging? How do you get a sense of closure?

Consider their silence the closure you need. Inaction, on their part, can act as closure for you.

People make a way to do what they want.

Remind yourself that if the person wants to talk to you, they will.

You can give her the stars, the moon, the world, the universe but if she doesn't want you anymore nothing you can do can make her come back.

i see that you are a caring and loving guy. you deserve so much more. clearly she isn't worth it.  its such a waste to give all your love to someone who cheated on you then left you for no apparent reason. think about it. if you get back together she can cheat again and she can leave you again.

[shinobi]

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YEs po sobranga sakit talaga. And to think na she promised me That she will only love me and no one else. Nag effort ako kilalanin mga kapatid nya at kamag anak sa Laguna, sa Pampanga, pati sa boracay. nakausap ko na mother nya ok daw ako, i paalam ko lang sa kanya kung kelan ko papakasalan anak nya.

Mga Sir's its too painfull, ang hirap tanggapin na I trusted her twice! and yung pinalit nya sa akin technician , may anak na na dalawa pero hiwalay sa asawa,
me? im a business man, may sarili n aakong bahay at sasakyan, sabi ko sa kanya nun aalagaan ko na sya buong buhay , sabi nya pag nabuntis daw sya comfortable sya, I will provide her with a  room in my house for 9 months na air conditioned with kasama yaya pa.
Sabi nang mga friends ko dapat daw buntisin ko na dati pa, I dont belive kase na kailangan buntisin ang babae before magpakasal, Hinde ko pa sya pinakakasalan kase We plan muna pumunta Singapore. Since nandun na kapatid ko wala na sana problema sa tirahan. Job? I have a friend there na area manager nang starbucks pwede ko ipasok muna sya cashier or stock controller. I told her all this. Ako naman CISCO IT Networking JOB ko don sa office nang kapatid ko, Maayos na sana future namin, Its all good sana, paalis na sana kami last April, tinapon nya lahat yun to be with this guy technician ...

I tried to contact her.. She changed her number, Blocked me in facebook, asked all her relatives not to talk to me anymore, kaya kahit text ko mga kapatid nya ayaw na din mag reply sa akin.

ANo palagay nyo mga Sir's?? plan ko sana I will try my Luck with her next year baka wala na sila nang BF nun. Ligawan ko sana ulit sya next year...

BTW, im 33 years old and the girl is 25. Sabi nila ang 25 years old na babae adventurous pa daw yun at hinde pa seryoso sa buhay??

[cho]

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there are girls who can't express their selves verbally or in words, yet the way she behaves is showing that she is getting rid of you. masakit pero that's what she is showing you. in addition, it's not about being adventurous at the age of 25. rather, it's about maturity in the level of thinking. and maturity is not about numbers. a newly grad 21yo may decide things better than a 25yo at saka average marrying age nga ng women starts from age 26 and if she is 25 now, then she should be thinking of getting into long term instead of fooling around..right? so if she is mature enough, then she shouldn't be wasting her time playing around unless she really wanted to be with the technician..

kuya, may you not waste your time on people who are not worthy of what you can offer. you don't deserve to be taken for granted. you can't replace time that has passed, but you can always replace a girlfriend

[Vera Farmiga]

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i'm guessing that the girl isn't mature enough perhaps gusto pa niya mag explore that is why she can't decide yet if she would stick to one guy or date another one.

[Kuneho]

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I think hindi ka nya talaga mahal at sa tingin ko ginamit kalang nya, at dahil don hindi ka nya kayang harapin para sabihin sayo lahat.
dude move on nalang sabi nga ni cho you can't replace time passed but you can always replace gf.
payo ko syo humanap kanang pag kakaabalahan mo para hindi mo sya maalala, tulad nang mag gym pagudin mo ang sarili mo nang husto hangan makatulog ka at madami pag girls na ma kikilala mo.

[shinobi]

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oonga mukang hinde nya ako mahal ang sakit talga,,, to think before she said all those sweet words halos everyday sinasabihan ako na I love you sa CP hinde lang sa text pati sa tawag.. then  sobrang lambing talga.. hinde lang po yun.. binigay nya pa sarili nya sa akin how many times..
I just dont get it. All the while I thought na kami na talga.. binigay nya nga sarili nya pero im sure while kami pa nun.. binibigay nya rin sarili nya dun sa ka office mate nya
salamt sa mga payo mga Sir's

[shinobi]

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Sabi daw nila pag wlang closure may pag-asa pa?? totoo ba yun??

[cho]

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hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon..and besides, you don't wanna be left hanging do you? hanggang kelan ka naman aasa..

[Kuneho]

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Dude payo pabayaan mo na un....
ipakita mo na lalaki ka kung ayaw syo go, mahirap mag mahal nang hindi ka mahal i'am sure sa bandang huli masasaktan ka ulit..
marami ka pang makikila na mas mamahalin ka at kung hindi mo talaga sya makalimutan gumawa ka nang bagay na mapagkakaabalahan sabi ko nga syo mag gym kanalang madami pag girls kaysa mag tuma.
ipakita mo na hindi lang sa kanya na ikot ang mundo mo...
kung isang araw at bumalik sya syo, it's up to u kung tatangapin mo pa sya...
kung tatangapin mo sya para gumanti wag nalang parehas lang kayong masasaktan.

[wtf.omg]

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pre di sya deserving sayo. napaka swerte nia sayo at stable kang tao buhay na siya sayo at mukang mahal n mahal mo pa.
sinayang niang lahat yun para lang perhaps magexplore pa? hindi dahilan yun. sa katayuan mo na yan sa buhay, babae hahabol sayo,
makakakita ka ng mas deserving para sayo. oo napaka hirap talaga humiwalay at kumalimot lalo na at halos ng bagay ay pinagdaanan
niyong magkasama sa hirap o ginahawa. hanggat my communication kayo, hindi ka makaka let go. nangyari kasi din sakin yan.
kung ayaw kana nia kontakin pa, kawalan nia yun. pinapakita niya na kaya ka niang idump lang ng ganun kadali. ipakita mo rin na
lalake at kaya mong tanggapin lahat ng nangyari. payo lang wag ka muna mag mamahal ng iba hanggat mahal mo pa un.
dapat 100% naka move on kana bago ka ulit kumilala pa ng mas babagay sayo. try mo lahat ng ways para kumalimot,, masakit mahirap
dadaan ka sa butas ng karayom pero tiis lang, sa bandang my maganda ring kapalaran pang naghihintay sayo. darating din ang
pagkakataon mo para ikaw naman ang lumigaya. at pag dumating yung, wag mo na pakawalan. learn from your mistakes from the past.
wag mo na ulitin yung dati. try to improve yourself, im sure matured kna sir. goodluck po sayu

[shinobi]

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Thanks po nang madami sa mga payo.. Ill take it one step at a time.. pero sobrang hirap talaga

[cristine]

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i'm sorry about what happened..

it's  so hard to understand why there are some instances happened wen you are in the happiest moment of your relationship..maybe ngsawa na sya sau or there is something about the guy na wala din sau..madame reason why ang girl need to change or need to find others care..

well, for that situation only your girl can answer why is it??why is it happened??what do u do??why she fall in love with the other guy and why she need to have space..

give her time to think..maybe she realizes something that's why..

pero ang swerte nya sau ah..but love can't only be the reason why we need to stay on that relationship always remember..

[cristine]

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SHINOBI..

not all the times na pg walang closure eh my pag-asa p..naranasan ko nrin un kya nga i don't assured you yes..

maybe yes maybe no..yan ang sagot dyan..isa p tama mglibang ka nlang pra makalimot ndi reason mghanap ng iba pra makalimot..kawawa nman c next dpat ready kna if u will enter a new relationship and that past is no longer seems at all..pra mging ok ka mahirap kc ung my bago ka and then you always remember the girl who broke your heart how can you be happy??..tama mggym ka..fix yourself pakita mo sknya na dka talunan at wag mo nrin antayin ung closure na un sya na umiiwas wag mo na hbulin enough na ung cnabi ng sister nya she needs space so let her GO nlang...

[shinobi]

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but love can't only be the reason why we need to stay on that relationship always remember..

hinde ko ma gets ito??
hinde nya ako love pero i can give her security pero iniwan pa din nya ako?? can you please elaborate further??