I remember you missy. I read my past answer to you before. Didn't I say to you to leave him? Now your situation got worse.
Too lazy to dig through my past posts. And I am too tired right now to try and figure out the tagalog.
Anyway I said these things get worse, and get rid of the guy.
Also possibility that the guy might get violent, do threatening things etc.
The same thing can happen to men.
At least 25% of cases of domestic violence are with men being the victim.
As in the woman threatens, hits beats the man etc.
Even though the man might be physically stronger, he is ashamed to go to the police etc.
Now I cannot emphasize this more but the best solution to your problem is to face your fear. Yes, tell it to him straight and whether he says yes or no, cut your communication with him FOREVER! If you have to ask for your parents for help do it.
If he threthens you in any way like posting your picture on the internet then let him do it, that will be evidence for the police to put him in jail. Either way, if he post it or not, he's screwed both ways.
You have the right idea here Doc. But "legally" she will have a weak case.
Prepare a good defense.
1) If the man (or woman) does any more bad things, report it to the barangy.
2) If the case merits it, summon the guy to the barangy, have him agree that he will not attempt to talk to you etc.
3) If need be go to the police and file a blotter.
4) Also if need be file a case with social welfare.
5) In all cases keep copies of all documents, keep a record of the dates events occured. If actual physical abuse happens report it right away to the police, and barangy. Make sure it is documented. If possible get photos and copies of medical records. Get witnesses, preferably independent ones.
If need be get a restraining order. Better getting that, then ending up hurt or dead.
This is very important. If this is not done. It is highly likely the guy will get off.
Case in point. A foreigner I know was married to a filipina.
She was physically abusing him. I am talking extreme abuse.
She shoved him against a wall breaking his shoulder.
She then hit his arm and hand with a pipe fracturing it.
The where other incidents.
He asked me for advice, I told him the above.
He failed to follow my advice.
Meanwhile between them they own approximately 20+ million worth of properties.
Finally he had enough of the abuse and decided to leave.
The filipina then got very angry.
She then accused him of having another woman.
Then she filed complains on him in the barangy and police saying that he was beating her.
She then paid off witnesses to state that she was the "victim".
Again because his physical injuries where not reported within 24 hours to the police/barangy he has no case.
Possibly he might be deported, if that is the case he will lose all his properties in the Philippines.
An extreme case but .....
This is not a game. You can end up seriously hurt, or dead.
I have seen it happen.
In many cases people chose to be a victim. Don't let yourself be a victim.
Abusers will use any trick in the book to take advantage of you.
Don't allow it to happen to you.
