pano nalalaman kung talagang mahal ka nya?

[challen]

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please share naman po if pano malalaman if he/she really loves you?

Thank you!

[DocEdd]

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You know what, I don't really get this. Girls can perfectly see if their partner is cheating but they can't even tell if their partner loves them or not. I get his question all the time now. I'm asking if this is really the generation of today. They base love on purely emotion. What if I remove that  emotion, would you still love him? If you base love on emotion then yes will be your answer.

Listen, love does not live on emotion only. It's mostly actions. 80% action and 20% emotion, that's how you rate love on any person you encounter. You look mostly on his action, that will give you an idea. If he jerks you around more than telling you that you're beautiful then he doesn't love you. If he respects you more than jerking you around then he loves you. How hard is that?

Love is not "rocket science" stuff. It's purely simple. It's so simple the answer is right under your nose. You just can't see it. What makes it complicated is humans. Humans are complicated not love. What we think, hear and project is dangerous because we give it a different meaning instead of it's simple meaning.

Whenever someone asks me this question, I always answer them that how you caught your partner cheating is the same method you're going to use to know if he loves you or not. How? Look through his actions.

Remember this missy, love is simple. What make it complicated is your way of thinking. You want to know if he loves you or not? Don't think, just look. It's that simple.

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You know what, I don't really get this. Girls can perfectly see if their partner is cheating but they can't even tell if their partner loves them or not. I get his question all the time now. I'm asking if this is really the generation of today. They base love on purely emotion. What if I remove that  emotion, would you still love him? If you base love on emotion then yes will be your answer.

Listen, love does not live on emotion only. It's mostly actions. 80% action and 20% emotion, that's how you rate love on any person you encounter. You look mostly on his action, that will give you an idea. If he jerks you around more than telling you that you're beautiful then he doesn't love you. If he respects you more than jerking you around then he loves you. How hard is that?

Love is not "rocket science" stuff. It's purely simple. It's so simple the answer is right under your nose. You just can't see it. What makes it complicated is humans. Humans are complicated not love. What we think, hear and project is dangerous because we give it a different meaning instead of it's simple meaning.

Whenever someone asks me this question, I always answer them that how you caught your partner cheating is the same method you're going to use to know if he loves you or not. How? Look through his actions.

Remember this missy, love is simple. What make it complicated is your way of thinking. You want to know if he loves you or not? Don't think, just look. It's that simple.

papa jack po ba??  :)but you got it right...super agree...

[challen]

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pero why does he keep on denying his wife and his child?
he's such a looser kung ganun?

[DocEdd]

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Malay ko. You haven’t even told me your situation. Why don’t you share it and I’ll answer your question.

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You know what, I don't really get this. Girls can perfectly see if their partner is cheating but they can't even tell if their partner loves them or not. I get his question all the time now. I'm asking if this is really the generation of today. They base love on purely emotion. What if I remove that  emotion, would you still love him?

When you phrase it like that it is almost comical in a sad way.
My husband,wife,bf or gf beats me every day. But I stay with him or her because he or she loves me.
Comical in a sad way.

[challen]

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he's my churchmate po...he's in mindanao and i'm here sa manila po.
when he got home, i learned na he get married lat dec.24 and he has a child na din.
pero he keep on denying it...
pati sa church namin at mga teachers namin nung hi-school hindi nya inaaming kasal at may anak na sya...
may nakakita kasi one time sa kanya na may karga syang baby at nung tinanong sya ang sabi pamangkin lang daw nya yun pero sa fb nya may pic din sila nung baby. nagsend din sya ng picture nila nung baby thru mms at yun nga pamangkin daw nya yun at ninong sya during the binyag.

one day din po nagulat na lang ako at may nag-add sa akin sa fb at nung tinanong ko kung kaano ano sya ang sabi nga wife daw nya...one time din tnxt ako ung girl at gusto daw makipagfriend sa akin.
ang totoo hindi naging kami, pero we love each other na we feel like were committed sa isa't isa, although no formal relationship...ang gulo po pero yun yung totoo.

[DocEdd]

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Then you answered your own question my friend. No matter how he puts it, no matter how he say it’s his actions speaks for it. Does he love you or not? You said yourself. He has a wife. What does that action tells you?

[challen]

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pero doc why does he keeps on denying that he's married and with a child?

[DocEdd]

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Defense mechanism. Guys are very defensive by nature. Only a few people can admit their wrong, and it takes courage to do that. If that guy would just be honest and admit he has a wife, then I might believe that he loves you but instead he chose to deny it which will give me a hint that he is lying.

Remember this, guys will say anything to get everything from a girl. I always say not to believe anything a guy says especially if you met that guy from the internet and by text. That guy might be a criminal, rapist or even a killer.

I've seen girls being raped by their textmates before and people whom they just met in the chatroom. They undergo extreme depression and it's very difficult to treat them.   

[challen]

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i understand it doc...
i really hate liars pa naman po, pero bakit po until now i'm waiting for a proof, parang it's not enough kasi I was not the one who witness what everyone tells around me, parang to this point i want to see and proof it on my own...

[SparkPlug]

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Just one word..

"EFFORT"

[DocEdd]

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One word sums it up, it’s “Doubt.” Doubt about everything that’s happening around you, doubt about your partner and doubt about yourself because of something lacking in you. There is always a “what if?” that continues to whisper in your mind.

Gautama Buddha, one of the wises people that ever lived said something about that,

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” –Gautama Buddha

Yes, to remove doubt, do not worry missy. Do not worry about tomorrow, do not worry about the past and whatever you have now is what’s important. What you do today missy will tell what future you will bring. If you knew this partner of yours is already lying then you certainly know what your future is.

To reverse that and have a good future, choose someone that can go through with you with life’s challenges. Someone that can help you or you can team up. Let’s face it, all those attributes girls are saying about the “ideal partner” will not even come close to the one you’re going to marry for real. Chances are only a fraction of those attributes will be present to your husband so the best thing you have to do is accept who your partner is and that’s already real love, accepting a person for his imperfection.

What you choose defines what your life is going to be. That’s freewill. It’s very powerful so choose very wisely. In fact, think a 100 times before deciding. If you’re still not sure, consult someone who knows a lot about life like your parents or learn from someone who made a mistake in the past.

Choose the wrong decision and you destroy your entire future and spend the rest of your life in pain. That’s punishment for people who are stubborn and would not listen to their parents or people who know what life really is.

Remember, what defines you are the choices you’ve made in the past. So if your life is screwed right now, that means you've made the wrong decision. All you have to do is make things right from now on.

[meagan]

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i understand it doc...
 pero bakit po until now i'm waiting for a proof, parang it's not enough kasi I was not the one who witness what everyone tells around me, parang to this point i want to see and proof it on my own...

ako din ganyan, unless ako ang nakapagprove hindi ako agad agad naniniwala yun ay kung love ko ang 1 tao...ang hirap nga nyan girl...kung minsan naisip ko nga is it our ego na natapakan at ayaw nating tanggaping na kahit nagmamahalan pa kayo hindi kayo pwede dahil mali at hindi dapat...

[challen]

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Just one word..

"EFFORT"

I believe that's true...thanks SparkPlug