Im 25 years old and still single.. what should i do?

[grlnxtdor25]

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I'm already 25 years old, have a decent job (though my job doesn't let me meet people my age or people likely to be open for a relationship) I'm not ugly.. some may even say I'm pretty... not really skinny or sexy.. maybe a bit chubby definitely not fat..  I've had some flings, but that's just it..some have tried to court me, but i turned them down, due to hang ups like (expectations and family matters) any advice?

[bletze]

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lower your standards..

tapos try mo maglalabas with friends para maka meet ka ng ibang tao..

magpaganda ka at gawin mong good catch ang sarili mo.

[DocEdd]

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Would you believe I met a guy who is in his late twenties, an entrepreneur, very matured, simple looking, frugal (seems to me every businessman is), has no past children, no past divorces, and no recent girlfriend? He does not smoke, drink or even party and is a high potential of being monogamous?

Don’t believe me? I met one, and I never thought I even met someone like that much like in this kind of country. Well he was one of my friend’s sons.

He was 28 years old and was managing his family’s manufacturing business. He has already a degree in Nursing and was about to take medicine but since his brother’s accidental child came, he took the responsibility of managing his family’s legacy. He’s responsible, very intelligent and well-disciplined. The best thing I like about him is his humor and his highly principled attitude.

Don’t be fooled, he also has flaws like short temperedness, very strict, disciplinarian, and is extremely introverted person (a person who avoids socialization, which explains his being monogamous), but all of these flaws are completely manageable by any person and it serves kind of an advantage too in life’s challenges. He’s actually the best type of person I could think off who can very well create a very long relationship because he prioritizes family above else. If he marries, his family is his priority.

You might wonder why he did not marry. He almost did before but pulled it off to help his family.   

Now what am I trying to say here? All I’m saying missy, if a man like this still exists, even though it’s rare, wouldn't be worth it to wait/search for such person?

These persons are extremely rare to find but believe me they are worth the wait. The bad thing about it is girls do not seem to take a notice to these kinds of people. The first one they will notice is the one who looks like a foreigner from Korea or China.

You really have to look very well and the ones who are the simplest looking guys are actually the ones who are the best (but of course I’m not basing it only on looks).

So my advise here missy is never stop looking. Never stop searching. If I found one like this, there are probably others like him out there. It’s only a matter of changing “how” you see people.

Disregard fashionable men, they usually are the most shallow types of persons. Look at the simplest looking guy and start there. They usually go alone and rarely takes out his cell phone (this indicates he has no girlfriend).   

Don’t be discourage about what others say about guys, there are, and will always be someone who is, at least, almost perfect. Though rare, it’s worth the search.

 

[grlnxtdor25]

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@DocEdd i don't think it is how i see people, but what the people around me see.. it may sound cliche but my family expects me to be with someone, not really a specific someone but someone that is "RIGHT" or "PERFECT" for their standards.. ok i'll tell you.. im from a chinese family.. and yes as you can see in chinese society, i'm kinda expected to be with a chinese man.. the problem is im not really into that chinese looking guy.. i like variety, i like to learn new things, be with different kinds of people.. not to be boxed up in our tradition which is what i'm feeling now.. my mother is making me "reto" some guys.. which i makes me feel irritated.. sometimes she asked me.. "wala ka pang boyfriend?" or something like that. and i always retort.. "ayaw mo naman ng pinoy eh"... this makes me have these flings with guys that aren't serious relationships.. i just enjoy their company.. sometimes the no commitment thing bites me in the ass because they will find someone who can commit to them... so you can see its really complicated..

[DocEdd]

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I see, so it’s the culture of your family that’s been bothering you and you want some sort of freedom to choose whoever you want to love. So it’s kind of you versus the family culture.

I won’t be optimistic about your situation because frankly speaking the one you’re at conflict here is your parents. To break free of this “chain” you have, you’re going to have to speak to your parents and tell them what you’re thinking or as others would say, “open up”.

Whatever happens, if they approve or not about your wishes, you have to gather up a lot of courage and only expect the worse and accept whatever both you and your parents agreed. I’m not assuming that something bad will happen, but it’s wise to prepare for anything.

Yes, sometimes it’s unfair right that we have no freedom to choose whoever we want to love, but look at it this way, your parents might not have given you the freedom you wanted but it sure hell saved you from a lot of Filipino jerks lurking around.

You’re 25 and still single! You know what that means, that means for 25 years your parents protected you from a lot of male Filipino jerks that might take advantage of you. You’re lucky missy. Seriously, I’ve seen a lot of women ended up young parents and never having the future they wanted but in your case, it’s the opposite.   

Anyway, all I’m saying is they did what they thought was best for you. The problem is, this “thought” of them wanting you to be safe does not correspond to the type of freedom you wanted. In other words, both of you and your parents are not in the same level of understanding when it comes to your freedom.

This is where talking with them is important. This will be difficult because you have to be open here and not side only on your self. You have to understand their side too on why they’re doing this to you. You have to accept whatever “deal” you’ve made with them.

It does not matter anymore who you choose missy because frankly speaking, if you don’t solve this “family problem” with your parents, you’re going to end up a very unhappy bride in the end and you’re going to blame them for that for the rest of your life and I don’t want to happen to you. I want you to face your fear and accept whatever consequences that might happen.

Fix first your problem with your parents then you choose a partner you like. If you chose a partner before talking to your parents then that’s going be a big problem in the end because if you hid someone from them, it’s more of an insult/ “betrayal of trust” to your family. Betrayal is far worse sin than death in any culture.

The point I’m saying here missy is the only thing that hinders you and your freedom is your fear of opening up to your parents. A lot of “what ifs” are circling into your mind about what might happen if you told them. But thinking about it or being optimistic isn’t going to help you either, doing something about it is your only option.

So this goes down to two choices; it either you stay and keep hoping or you stand up and state your problem to them.

The Buddha Replies to the Deva

On a certain day when the Blessed One
dwelt at Jetavana, the garden of Anathapindika,
a celestial deva came to him in the shape of a Brahman
enlightened and wearing clothing as white as snow.

The deva asked,
What is the sharpest sword?
What is the deadliest poison?
What is the fiercest fire?
What is the darkest night?"

The Blessed One replied,
The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath;
the deadliest poison is covetousness;
the fiercest fire is hatred;
the darkest night is ignorance.

The deva said,
What is the greatest gain?
What is the greatest loss?
Which armour is invulnerable?
What is the best weapon?

The Blessed One replied,
The greatest gain is to give to others;
the greatest loss is to greedily receive without gratitude;
an invulnerable armor is patience;
the best weapon is wisdom.

The deva said,
Who is the most dangerous thief?
What is the most precious treasure?
Who can capture the heavens and the earth?
Where is the securest treasure-trove?

The Blessed One replied,
The most dangerous thief is unwholesome thought;
the most precious treasure is virtue;
the heavens and the earth may be captured by the mind's eye;
surpassing rebirth locates the securest treasure-trove.

[Bro. Ikawalu]

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@DocEdd i don't think it is how i see people, but what the people around me see.. it may sound cliche but my family expects me to be with someone, not really a specific someone but someone that is "RIGHT" or "PERFECT" for their standards.. ok i'll tell you.. im from a chinese family.. and yes as you can see in chinese society, i'm kinda expected to be with a chinese man.. the problem is im not really into that chinese looking guy.. i like variety, i like to learn new things, be with different kinds of people.. not to be boxed up in our tradition which is what i'm feeling now.. my mother is making me "reto" some guys.. which i makes me feel irritated.. sometimes she asked me.. "wala ka pang boyfriend?" or something like that. and i always retort.. "ayaw mo naman ng pinoy eh"... this makes me have these flings with guys that aren't serious relationships.. i just enjoy their company.. sometimes the no commitment thing bites me in the ass because they will find someone who can commit to them... so you can see its really complicated..

haaayz. pwede ba magapply ang isang security guard? kamukha ko si jet lee (grit biir)

[gwen]

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jet lee?naks... bka over qualified ka nian hihihih

[gab]

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im gab, single and ready to mingle from malolos, turning 26...
can u be my txt m8?
may i know ur number?
heres my number 09165410772 bip me up if u r interested...
malay mo ikaw na pala ung hinhanap ko...

[misSHAI'87]

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lol humihingi siya ng advice hindi naghahanap ng lalaki! hahaha

[cheen]

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I think we hav sumthng in cmon. S wrk nirereto aq s mga ofismates but it seems that s pgging chinese p lng ngging conflict n kagad s knila guys un.
To think n d nmn aq pure chinese.. Wla nmn sken kung chinese or pnoy ang mging bf.. Importante pwde iharap ng maayos s mgulang.
Advice q lng sau, wen u think n nkta mo n ryt guy for u.. Fyt for him, lyk wat my mom nd dad did. Nprove nla s parents nla khit mhrap nging buhay nla, nging tama p rn ang decision nla to fyt for their love for each other.

[vinn7]

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aQ 24 na pero OK lng NGSB ^_^

[Paracetamol]

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Go with the flow... Feel the rhythm 

[Bro. Ikawalu]

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Would you believe I met a guy who is in his late twenties, an entrepreneur, very matured, simple looking, frugal (seems to me every businessman is), has no past children, no past divorces, and no recent girlfriend? He does not smoke, drink or even party and is a high potential of being monogamous?

Don’t believe me? I met one, and I never thought I even met someone like that much like in this kind of country. Well he was one of my friend’s sons.

He was 28 years old and was managing his family’s manufacturing business. He has already a degree in Nursing and was about to take medicine but since his brother’s accidental child came, he took the responsibility of managing his family’s legacy. He’s responsible, very intelligent and well-disciplined. The best thing I like about him is his humor and his highly principled attitude.

Don’t be fooled, he also has flaws like short temperedness, very strict, disciplinarian, and is extremely introverted person (a person who avoids socialization, which explains his being monogamous), but all of these flaws are completely manageable by any person and it serves kind of an advantage too in life’s challenges. He’s actually the best type of person I could think off who can very well create a very long relationship because he prioritizes family above else. If he marries, his family is his priority.

You might wonder why he did not marry. He almost did before but pulled it off to help his family.   

Now what am I trying to say here? All I’m saying missy, if a man like this still exists, even though it’s rare, wouldn't be worth it to wait/search for such person?

These persons are extremely rare to find but believe me they are worth the wait. The bad thing about it is girls do not seem to take a notice to these kinds of people. The first one they will notice is the one who looks like a foreigner from Korea or China.

You really have to look very well and the ones who are the simplest looking guys are actually the ones who are the best (but of course I’m not basing it only on looks).

So my advise here missy is never stop looking. Never stop searching. If I found one like this, there are probably others like him out there. It’s only a matter of changing “how” you see people.

Disregard fashionable men, they usually are the most shallow types of persons. Look at the simplest looking guy and start there. They usually go alone and rarely takes out his cell phone (this indicates he has no girlfriend).   

Don’t be discourage about what others say about guys, there are, and will always be someone who is, at least, almost perfect. Though rare, it’s worth the search.

 

ehem, nasamid yata ako....

[C H O Y]

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lol humihingi siya ng advice hindi naghahanap ng lalaki! hahaha

[berto]

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lower your standards..

tapos try mo maglalabas with friends para maka meet ka ng ibang tao..

magpaganda ka at gawin mong good catch ang sarili mo.

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Would you believe I met a guy who is in his late twenties, an entrepreneur, very matured, simple looking, frugal (seems to me every businessman is), has no past children, no past divorces, and no recent girlfriend? He does not smoke, drink or even party and is a high potential of being monogamous?

Don’t believe me? I met one, and I never thought I even met someone like that much like in this kind of country. Well he was one of my friend’s sons.

He was 28 years old and was managing his family’s manufacturing business. He has already a degree in Nursing and was about to take medicine but since his brother’s accidental child came, he took the responsibility of managing his family’s legacy. He’s responsible, very intelligent and well-disciplined. The best thing I like about him is his humor and his highly principled attitude.

Don’t be fooled, he also has flaws like short temperedness, very strict, disciplinarian, and is extremely introverted person (a person who avoids socialization, which explains his being monogamous), but all of these flaws are completely manageable by any person and it serves kind of an advantage too in life’s challenges. He’s actually the best type of person I could think off who can very well create a very long relationship because he prioritizes family above else. If he marries, his family is his priority.

You might wonder why he did not marry. He almost did before but pulled it off to help his family.   

Now what am I trying to say here? All I’m saying missy, if a man like this still exists, even though it’s rare, wouldn't be worth it to wait/search for such person?

These persons are extremely rare to find but believe me they are worth the wait. The bad thing about it is girls do not seem to take a notice to these kinds of people. The first one they will notice is the one who looks like a foreigner from Korea or China.

You really have to look very well and the ones who are the simplest looking guys are actually the ones who are the best (but of course I’m not basing it only on looks).

So my advise here missy is never stop looking. Never stop searching. If I found one like this, there are probably others like him out there. It’s only a matter of changing “how” you see people.

Disregard fashionable men, they usually are the most shallow types of persons. Look at the simplest looking guy and start there. They usually go alone and rarely takes out his cell phone (this indicates he has no girlfriend).   

Don’t be discourage about what others say about guys, there are, and will always be someone who is, at least, almost perfect. Though rare, it’s worth the search.

 

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