OBSESSIVE BF..HOW CAN BE DISPATCHED?

[ione]

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i intend to be attracted to good looking men,really. but this time, i had this bf who ain't really that good looking. infact he's ...huge but since he's a good person nmn, i fell from him, well initially, but now, i dunno, he's saying sum things i really don't like, our relationship is discreet in account of my religion, or maybe deep inside i just hate the possibility that he won't be liked by my folks cuz i dunno, especially my aunt, pintasera yun, hihi since i am often remarked as a pretty girl, they say ,(some who knows about us) that i am totally out of his league.

ngyon nmn, nbabahala nko kasi sinasabi na nya n pag ntpos n kming mag aral papakasalan nya dw ako etc, at he's even insinuating that he's gunna commit suicide when i leave him which he did the last time he broke up with his ex who cheated on him. sabi nyapa, he's capable n raw of revenge if ever n mangyayari dw uli s knya yun kea wag ko dw subukang iwan sya T_T. creepy, but he said it in a subtle way which doesn't sound quite scary. nababahala ako. im gunna transfer next year to another school and i wanna find sum1 else to replace him pra matigil n sya cuz now, hndi nko komportable. dati naman okey pa

[lhans75]

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well.. a piece of advise. we should be serious in all our actions. in fact experience make us wise to know what we want in life. It's a gesture that we have to be sincere especially to th eperople we have in life.

keep yourself forward and plan!

[Vera Farmiga]

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i intend to be attracted to good looking men,really. but this time, i had this bf who ain't really that good looking. infact he's ...huge but since he's a good person nmn, i fell from him, well initially, but now, i dunno, he's saying sum things i really don't like, our relationship is discreet in account of my religion, or maybe deep inside i just hate the possibility that he won't be liked by my folks cuz i dunno, especially my aunt, pintasera yun, hihi since i am often remarked as a pretty girl, they say ,(some who knows about us) that i am totally out of his league.

ngyon nmn, nbabahala nko kasi sinasabi na nya n pag ntpos n kming mag aral papakasalan nya dw ako etc, at he's even insinuating that he's gunna commit suicide when i leave him which he did the last time he broke up with his ex who cheated on him. sabi nyapa, he's capable n raw of revenge if ever n mangyayari dw uli s knya yun kea wag ko dw subukang iwan sya T_T. creepy, but he said it in a subtle way which doesn't sound quite scary. nababahala ako. im gunna transfer next year to another school and i wanna find sum1 else to replace him pra matigil n sya cuz now, hndi nko komportable. dati naman okey pa

someone call the doctor got a case of love bi-polar

[DocEdd]

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Bipolar? Nope. This guy has no Bi-polar. All he has is low self esteem. This girl said it herself, “his huge”. Fat guys tend to have low self esteem probably because of low popularity due to his body structure. What this guy is doing is “trapping” you by manipulating your guilt saying that he’ll commit suicide if you leave him.

Unless this guy has no history of suicidal attempts by cutting major part of his blood vessel, his bluffing. How can he know what nerve to hit anyways?

Believe me, human beings are very difficult to kill you need a gun to kill yourself instantaneously. A gun cost 100,000 pesos, and that’s the lowest price for a pistol. If you stab yourself with a knife, it will take at least 3 minutes for you to die, if you stab yourself in the heart it will take you 8 seconds to die (it’s very hard to stab yourself in the heart because the sternum and ribs are protecting the lungs and the heart, and human bones are proven to be much more stronger than reinforced concrete). I doubt anyone would not see him lie in the floor because of his size.

He wants you all for himself and by doing that, he manipulates you. That’s greed. If you give in, you’ll just feed his greed more. In other words, you’re making him worse if you keep up with him. Remember, once your boyfriend shows any signs of greed like this girl’s boyfriend here, leave. Do not look back.

Greed is a sign of a long term weakness in a relationship, the more you feed it, the more your relationship gets worse (take note, I said “long term”).

You don’t have to find another guy, leave him if you want to. Don’t worry about the consequences. If he does dies, it’s his fault not yours. If you do find a guy then you’ve just made your situation worst by involving another person.

Remember this missy, NEVER INVOLVE ANOTHER PARTY BY DESTROYING YOUR OWN PARTY. YOU’LL NOT DESTROY ONE BUT TWO LIVES MAKING YOUR OWN PERSONALITY A LOT WORSE AND MAKING BOTH PARTY’S PERSONALITIES WORSE. THAT’S HOW EVIL MULTIPLIES. YOU DON’T DESTROY EVIL BY USING EVIL, YOU DESTROY EVIL BY DOING GOOD.

When I say good, I mean leaving him. This will make him realize what he did was wrong, in turn, will make him a better person in the future. Gets? Assuming he realizes it. If he’s stupid, he’ll drink himself to death or destroy his life. Regardless, it’s still not your fault.

That’s why I hate “manipulators” and “deceivers” they tend to multiply evil in this damn world.

Now by reading his moves, if you happened to leave him, this guy will text you and say that he has been in an “accident” or his relative will text you saying he committed suicide blaming you for the event, again, his bluffing. His manipulating you. Walk away and never look back. Once you leave him, change your number and cut every possible communication this guy has to you so you won’t feel any guilt leaving him.

One last thing, I realize you have some kind of a Narcissist Personality because you tend to praise yourself too much (I’m talking to the girl who asked the question at the very top, “ione”). I hope that’s not yet a disorder. I must advise you to minimize that “self love” that you have right now because it makes other people, especially common ones, to hate and dislike you. You might be “beautiful” as you describe yourself, but I only see boastfulness and intense self love. That’s ugliness in reality.

That might explain why you have this situation right now. This is more of a punishment because you love yourself too much.


  

[ione]

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Bipolar? Nope. This guy has no Bi-polar. All he has is low self esteem. This girl said it herself, “his huge”. Fat guys tend to have low self esteem probably because of low popularity due to his body structure. What this guy is doing is “trapping” you by manipulating your guilt saying that he’ll commit suicide if you leave him.

Unless this guy has no history of suicidal attempts by cutting major part of his blood vessel, his bluffing. How can he know what nerve to hit anyways?

Believe me, human beings are very difficult to kill you need a gun to kill yourself instantaneously. A gun cost 100,000 pesos, and that’s the lowest price for a pistol. If you stab yourself with a knife, it will take at least 3 minutes for you to die, if you stab yourself in the heart it will take you 8 seconds to die (it’s very hard to stab yourself in the heart because the sternum and ribs are protecting the lungs and the heart, and human bones are proven to be much more stronger than reinforced concrete). I doubt anyone would not see him lie in the floor because of his size.

He wants you all for himself and by doing that, he manipulates you. That’s greed. If you give in, you’ll just feed his greed more. In other words, you’re making him worse if you keep up with him. Remember, once your boyfriend shows any signs of greed like this girl’s boyfriend here, leave. Do not look back.

Greed is a sign of a long term weakness in a relationship, the more you feed it, the more your relationship gets worse (take note, I said “long term”).

You don’t have to find another guy, leave him if you want to. Don’t worry about the consequences. If he does dies, it’s his fault not yours. If you do find a guy then you’ve just made your situation worst by involving another person.

Remember this missy, NEVER INVOLVE ANOTHER PARTY BY DESTROYING YOUR OWN PARTY. YOU’LL NOT DESTROY ONE BUT TWO LIVES MAKING YOUR OWN PERSONALITY A LOT WORSE AND MAKING BOTH PARTY’S PERSONALITIES WORSE. THAT’S HOW EVIL MULTIPLIES. YOU DON’T DESTROY EVIL BY USING EVIL, YOU DESTROY EVIL BY DOING GOOD.

When I say good, I mean leaving him. This will make him realize what he did was wrong, in turn, will make him a better person in the future. Gets? Assuming he realizes it. If he’s stupid, he’ll drink himself to death or destroy his life. Regardless, it’s still not your fault.

That’s why I hate “manipulators” and “deceivers” they tend to multiply evil in this damn world.

Now by reading his moves, if you happened to leave him, this guy will text you and say that he has been in an “accident” or his relative will text you saying he committed suicide blaming you for the event, again, his bluffing. His manipulating you. Walk away and never look back. Once you leave him, change your number and cut every possible communication this guy has to you so you won’t feel any guilt leaving him.

One last thing, I realize you have some kind of a Narcissist Personality because you tend to praise yourself too much (I’m talking to the girl who asked the question at the very top, “ione”). I hope that’s not yet a disorder. I must advise you to minimize that “self love” that you have right now because it makes other people, especially common ones, to hate and dislike you. You might be “beautiful” as you describe yourself, but I only see boastfulness and intense self love. That’s ugliness in reality.

That might explain why you have this situation right now. This is more of a punishment because you love yourself too much.




 

that helped a lot. thanks. but still, i dunno where to start, im afraid that he'll spread our pictures over the net.(it ain't obscene, pero it is so obvious n we're gf's bf's dun s pics)  and really commit suicide  if i leave him,i know it's not gunna be my fault  pero d prn maalis s isip ko n ako ang dahilan. about the suicide thingy,.he showed me the mark dun s knyng wrist. mdmi actually. at nag try narin rw sya ilambitin ang sarili nya. geez,. i was actually  ...shocked while he was saying that, i mean what precisely is the relevance of that?(ngay0n,iniisip ko para takutin ako) pero honestly when im with him, i feel happy naman,. we talk about sum sort of things, and umm..i must admit i guess what i like about is when we're having thaT Intimate moment together.. well, no sex yet. but i am technically initiating the flirting  sumtimes. wla lang i just feel the urge of doing so, nagpipigil p sya nung una pero nung huli bumigay rina at sabi nya lalaki rin dw sya, and i kinda hinted that i wanna do it na, and he said, whether i like it or not we'll do it before i leave,at that moment i liked the idea, but when i regained my rationality again, no! i don't want to. so thre must be a possibility as well that he likes me bcuz im kinda spontaneous. i dunno. msya nmn ako. matter of fact he's the first guy who  showed me romantic gestures. flowers and stuffs,it's sweet, but i dunno, when he's saying stuffs that he wanna marry me, i just don't feel very convenient with the idea of him and me forever.ughh, cuz eversince i've dreamt of my dream guy, and when i picture that dream guy, it's ...u know...not him. : ( i feel so shallow and mean nmn. pero dba, studies show that it is innate to us to be attracted to what is attractive, kahit 1 year  old tayo mas pinipili ntin ung mgnda, it's also like halo effect. being in favor of who is prettier. shallow n kung shallow, but my male friend said,  you can't be in love with a person when u aren't attracted physically.

well, i would i agree with the statement that i love myself, im slightly a narcissist . but not completely. grabe nmn. i am well aware of  my flaws, i ain't perfect.

so hopefully i'll  be able to elude from this impasse. thank you very much. if u have sumthing to say, that would be grand

[ione]

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ps, you have the best advice so far. and i really wanna initiate the break up thingy as soon as possible,kasi ang kailangan ko lakas ng loob, pano byun hihi, once po kasi i broke up with him then kinabukasan binigyan nko ng flowers at nagngangawa sa harapan ko, naawa nmn tlg ako ng sobra. sabi nya, kahit ilang beses ko rw sya i break babalik at babalik prn dw sya. huhuhuh. ang kinakatakot ko tlg bka bgla pumunta s bhy nmin yun patay ako. ksi we're not legitimate p nmn. he's a psychology student so i guess he really knows how to control me. and he's good in human anatomy.

[DocEdd]

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Then ask I’ll ask you how long is that “fantasy” gestures would last? Do you think that giving you flowers and giving you sweet talks would last forever? This is not a question if he loves you or not, it’s a question of how long and how far would your relationship with this guy last?

Him giving you something is another sign of manipulation to keep you trapped, how many times must I remind you this? He will keep you trapped until you slap yourself in your face and start thinking about yourself.

The “giving flowers” thing is not love. He just did that because it’s the norm in every relationship. What you think about him does not equal what he thinks about you. You get me? If the “giving flowers” thing makes you think he loves you, in the mind of a guy, it only means sex. Once he gets to that stage he will make you pregnant and that child will be the “chain” of you not leaving him. How long am I going to remind you this? It’s pure manipulation! He’s using seduction.

Don’t you see this guy knows your weakness already, he keeps hitting it until you give in to his wants. You said yourself, he gives you flowers.  If a guy already knows your weakness he will keep on hitting it until he gets what he wants.

I’m already countering his moves by telling you his motive because I’m a psychiatrist and you still give in? I’m already your cheat mode. I know how he moves and I definitely know how he thinks, especially a psychology student. This guy has “greed” written all over his head. What did I say, if you keep feeding his desires, he will keep becoming greedy. You’re not helping him you’re making him worse.

Anyway, I’m afraid this is useless. You’re on your own in this one. You came back in again, just because he gave you some silly flowers. I can’t believe you’re that stubborn.  And now you’re asking for help? All I can say missy is good luck on getting out in this one.

Better hang on because I won’t see any future between you two. This guy knows psychology that means he can use that knowledge to make your head spin. I use mine to help people, that guy uses his for his own greed.

I told you his primary motive and taught you how to circle around it and what did you do? You came back in. I don’t help people for the second time. I rarely do that. It’s for the best because people tend to be dependent on me before and it’s a sign of abuse and manipulation. Best of luck missy! 
 
 

 
 
 

[pastor paradox]

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Unless this guy has no history of suicidal attempts by cutting major part of his blood vessel, his bluffing. How can he know what nerve to hit anyways?

Believe me, human beings are very difficult to kill you need a gun to kill yourself instantaneously. A gun cost 100,000 pesos, and that’s the lowest price for a pistol. If you stab yourself with a knife, it will take at least 3 minutes for you to die, if you stab yourself in the heart it will take you 8 seconds to die (it’s very hard to stab yourself in the heart because the sternum and ribs are protecting the lungs and the heart, and human bones are proven to be much more stronger than reinforced concrete). I doubt anyone would not see him lie in the floor because of his size.

You can pick up a used gun for ~20-25K pesos. But as I will describe quite hard to kill yourself with a gun.
 
I have known a lot of people who have comited suicide. Mainly because of the line of work I was in. It was very stressful, that was one of the reasons I stopped that type of work. One of our favorite topics was talking about suicide, and the best methods to do it (It was a coping method, we also would laugh at ways people fuked up their suicides). I lost track of how many people I knew who committed suicide, or ones that we highly suspected where suicide. I am guessing at least 10+.

Almost all people who threaten to suicide are attention seekers. All the people who are serious about it never tell anyone, they just go out and do it.
Even people who do the bullshit of slashing their wrists and crap like that are just attention seekers. Doc can correct me on this, but unless you cut the Femoral artery in the thigh, even if you lose a hand or a foot due to amputation it will take you a long time to bleed out. Femoral artery is usually cut because of breaking the thigh bone etc. Blood vessels and arteries when u go into shock contract stopping bleeding. Also if he is a "fat make love", it is hard to cut veins and arteries property since they are buried so deep in his fat.

Gunshot wounds are tricky. I know personally 1 person who was shot in the head and survived. Most of your body is "empty space". So if you shoot your self in the head, make sure if you stick the pistol in your mouth aim upwards into your brain. If you make the beginner mistake of pointing the pistol into the back of your mouth, you will just blow out the back of your skull, and most likely survive. Your chest and stomach region is mainly "empty space". So unless the bullet hits your heart, you will most likely live. Most lower torso wounds death would occur in the past not from the wound itself, but from secondary infection etc. Worst part about these methods is you might not kill yourself, and then for the rest of you life you will be all messed up, and your poor family has to take care of you. After the first shot, you will most likely go into shock, and will not be able to do a second shot. Also the noise of the gunshot will alert bystanders etc. So guns are very bad way to kill yourself.

Some successful ways to commit suicide. One guy I knew got bad news. He just said he was not feeling well and walked away from the rest of us. He then pulled a pin on a grenade, opened his flak jacket. Put the armed grenade inside, then closed his flak jacket. He then wrapped his arms around himself to contain the explosion. When the grenade exploded, literally all he had left was arms,legs and a head. The other guys tried to put him back together which was pretty comical. Down side of that method. We all wondered how he managed to wait the 6 seconds till the grenade goes off. Also not much of a body left, leaves a big mess.

Another guy (we debated whether or not it was suicide), he got onto his motorbike (it was a racing bike), got it up to 200 km/hr and ran it into a concrete embankment. Bad part of that method is it leaves a big mess. Also since it was on a major road, it was rather shocking to other bystanders.

Poison is also a very tricky method. 1 woman I know successfully comited suicide with carbon monoxide poisoning. The other case, they found him before he died and revived him. Poison like gunshot can leave you fuked up but not kill you. Also when they find you, you have pissed and crap yourself and you are thrashing around, throwing up before you die.

Anyway tell fatso if he wants to commit suicide be considerate, and make sure he is successful. Most methods leave a big mess. So if a family member or innocent by stander finds you dead it can be very tramatic for them. Also think about the poor emergency worker who has to clean up the mess afterwards. Also tell fatso to think about what will happen if he is not successful. If he is paralysed etc. some poor person has to look after the idiot for the rest of his days.

So recomended method for fatso to commit suicide. Tell him he should rent a small boat and go to the hardware and buy a bunch of chain,some exercise weights and some strong padlocks. He should then take the boat out 2-3 km from shore where the water is deep. Tell him to wrap the chain around himself and padlock it. Also thread the chain through the exercise weights and padlock it also. Throw the keys overboard. Then jump overboard also. His body will then sink to the bottom of the ocean. It might take him several minutes to drown, but I an tolded that drowning is relatively painless. Also when the police/coast guard find the boat, if the water is deep enough odds are they will not find the body, so no mess. Also the police/coast guard will most likely rule accidental death which will give his family and loved ones a piece of mind. Also as he is buying the exercise equipment, then has to ride the boat, he probably will change his mind. In that case he can use the exercise equipment to lose weight and gain more self esteme

Anyway I just wanted an excuse to talk about suicide

[pastor paradox]

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Forgot to mention about gun shots to the head.
Even if fatso is successful shooting himself in the brain there is a good possibility he will not die.
There have been medical cases where a person lost up to half his brain and did not die.
Ofcourse in this case he might end up blind, paralysed, a mental vegatable etc.
And in that case someone has to take care of him for the rest of his life.
So I do not recommend this method of suicide at all.
Not simple like in the movies at all.

Also with the motor bike in the concrete embankment idea, it does not work with a car or other type of motor vehicle.

Anyway fatso is obviously a total loser with self esteme issues, dump him, he is bad news.
If the jerk harasses you after you dump him. (Usually these type of losers do).
Collect evidence he is harassing you, ie text messages, phone calls etc. Don't reply back to them, or talk to him.
Just save the called numbers, and text messages so you have some sort of evidence he bothering you.
File a complaint with the barangy. Have him summoned, and tell him to leave you alone.
If that does not work, go to the police and take legal action. If need be file a restraining order against him.
Usually this type of loser can end up stalking you, in extreme cases your life could be in danger.

What ever you do, don't talk to him, communicate with him etc.

[ione]

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@ doc edd and mr paradox

tnx for the help. now im gunna do it. i know now what precisely to do. thanks a lot

[pastor paradox]

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Happy I was helpful. Looking over my post this morning I did not mean to throw all overweight people in the same group.
In life there are 'victims' and 'winners'.
Victims blame their problems on other people etc. We all are guilty of this to some extent.
Winners take what ever situation life has given them and make the best out of it.
Also with 'victims' they try and drag you down with them. Don't allow them to do that. You might be thinking you are helping them, but you are not.

Ages ago a friend of mine had a nasty accident and broke his back. Initially the doctors said he would never walk again. But he was the type of guy who would never give up. After 3 years of painful physical therapy he managed to walk again aided by a walker. Then he was able to get a job and be self supporting. Of course he was not able to do this all by him self, doctors helped him, various medical people helped him etc. It would have been pretty easy for him to play the victim card etc. But I never saw him once complain about his situation.

Anyway point behind my story is you can only help people who are willing to help themselves.

[ione]

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makes great sense ^_^ thanks