Ok so you had these two guys who courted you and you chose one of them. The other guy whom you blown off was doing weird things like telling you sweet things when he’s drunk. When your boyfriend is there, he would not talk to you or he acts like he doesn’t know you.
First of all girlreen, I have to congratulate you for not choosing that guy. No wonder you did not choose him. He has low self esteem. When you blew him off, he got depressed and started to drink. Now I want you to look carefully on that statement because people who do that have a weak personality. Why? Because he gave up easily on something life have given him. Usually a person with a strong personality would not give up, instead he would accept his fate and move on to making himself better.
A strong relationship is composed of two individuals with independent feelings.Why is it important for you to know if a person has low self esteem? Because people like these have dependent personalities. Meaning he depends on you for emotional approval. Remember that a strong relationships comprises of two people who are INDEPENDENT of each other’s feelings. Meaning I can still be happy without you but I need to see you every now and then.
People with low self esteem are very manipulative.The one thing I loathe in this world are people who manipulate people for their own personal gain. Since people who have low self esteem tend to depend on you, imagine if you try to leave him. He will do the “guilt trip” in which he would bombard you with statements such as “I will kill myself if you leave me” or “I became a bad person because of what you did”. He would try to kick your guilt emotion so you can have sympathy to him then he will “go on for the kill” or should I say, steal you away from your boyfriend by bombarding you with sweet words like what he’s doing right now.
Going back to your question, what is he doing? I may agree on you that he’s jealous, but I can see more than jealousy on him. I can see greed, anger and revenge. Greed because he is trying to manipulate you by doing the “guilt trip”. Anger because he still couldn’t accept that you blew him off that’s why he drinks and became “bad” as you said. Revenge because he is trying to steal you from your boyfriend by using stealth tactics when your boyfriend is not around.
All I can say is this guy is waging war against your boyfriend. He’s using psychological tactics to lure you away by manipulating you and the situation. It’s very hard to detect if you’re not used to psychological warfare but that’s child’s play to me. All I can say is stay away from this guy and do not fight back. This guy is like a snake, waiting for an opportunity to strike. Never give that chance.
