Commitment

[xyprusdavid]

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hello po

  ganito po kasi nung bata pa ako hanggang maghighschool ako i only love one girl but sadly she didn't love me the way i love her. i admit i was totally obsess with her thinking about kung anu mangyayari pag naging gf ko siya.. basta mahal ko siya, but hindi ako nakapagconfess sa kanya - she's gorgeous.

so, syempre ndi lang naman siya ang babae sa mundo, may nakilala ako sa chat lang sa ym then we became close then we met .. pero while i was feeling na she became closer to me like need ko na siya icall everyday or every minute she calls me, parang nasasakal na ako ndi pa kami decided to not call her and don't see her anymore. - she's cute chinita type girl.

then, after some time may dumating ulit na babae sa buhay ko, then she became my 1st bestfriend we became close sobra like the last girl, but nainlove sa knya ang classmate ko at naging bf nya ito.. then nagbreak cla.. ako ung nandun para sa kanya pero parang natakot ulit ako na magconfess kasi ayoko sa mga commitment... so decided to break our relationship then nagpakalayo layo.

marami pa akong girls na muntik nang naging gf, ewan ko kung mabait ba ako, magaling ako tumiming or ewan.
pero ang pagtataka ko eh, bakit takot ako sa commitment? alam ko ndi naman ganun kahirap magkagf dapat nga masaya yun dba..
i wasted my HS life with this naging zero ako sa lovelife...

i'm still close with some other girls... pero zero tlaga ako sa gf bat kaya ganun..?

[cho]

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ayaw mo talaga ng commitment..hmp, you tell us?

[josh0602]

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Love has its own timing. Don't force it if it does not come in the time that you want it to happen. You're still young.. marami pa pwede mangyari. Love is patient.

[xyprusdavid]

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@cho_romano I don't know if that's the case na takot ako.. kasi diba masaya dapat yun.. kasi pagnakakakita ako ng couple parang nalolonely ako na dapat meron ako pero lagi kong pinapakawalan..

@josh0602: kelan pa kaya yun huhu I'm at my 16, yung 1st bestfriend ko dapat magiging gf ko na siya kaso naunahan lang ako nung nagbreak cla parang nafeel ko na ang pangit tingnan kung magiging gf ko ung gf ng childhood friends ko parang nanulot ako, ang unfair naman ng buhay..

[DocEdd]

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As I read your story, you said that your having problems committing to someone. You said that You want to have a gf but you couldn't because, and I repeat, afraid of commitment? Based on what you've stated it's not the fear of commitment that's the problem here. Why? Because that's the problem of adult people not your stage of development.

What I could give you is the reason why you cannot get a gf is because you're afraid of being ridiculed or be "blown off" by the girl you want to propose your love to. You hate the fact that girls might say something bad about you so you resist proposing your love to any of them. It shows on your post. But don't worry most teenagers feel that way. It's perfectly normal.

What you could do now is simply declare your love to one of them and see for yourself. Look at it this way: If you don't conquer your fear on yourself, you'd be spending your whole life saying to yourself "I should have" like what your doing right now. "I should have made her my gf" or "I should have made her mine". The best way to ever conquer fear is facing it. Nothing more.   

 

[cho]

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@cho_romano I don't know if that's the case na takot ako.. kasi diba masaya dapat yun.. kasi pagnakakakita ako ng couple parang nalolonely ako na dapat meron ako pero lagi kong pinapakawalan..

hehe based on your story sa first post mo you were asking kung bakit ka takot sa commitment..makinig ka kay doc sa post niya right above me..coz i saw your reply to josh, you thought of what other people will say or think if ever you pursue your childhood friend's ex-gf..16 ka pa lang pala

[josh0602]

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@josh0602: kelan pa kaya yun huhu I'm at my 16, yung 1st bestfriend ko dapat magiging gf ko na siya kaso naunahan lang ako nung nagbreak cla parang nafeel ko na ang pangit tingnan kung magiging gf ko ung gf ng childhood friends ko parang nanulot ako, ang unfair naman ng buhay..

Hmm...ganito. Love comes to those who least expect it. You don't need to look for it.. It will find its own way to you. 16 ka pa lang. Trust me, di mo pa kailangan ng girlfriend hehe. Think of it this way.. Ang main priority mo as of the moment is studies eh..or your family. And it will be unfair to your "girl" kung hindi mo naman talaga siya priority. ANd by priority, I mean..sa kanya mo ginugugol lahat ng oras mo.

[xyprusdavid]

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@cho_romano ..
opo 16 plang aq, yeah i was really like never to betray my friend. even if i really like the girl i'm willing to sacrifice, eh siguro mas karapat dapat siya

@josh .. yeah priority ayoko rin sa priority ang iba gusto ko rin ginugulgol ko ang oras ko sa girl eh

hmm normal lang po ba tlga tong nafefeel ko kasi tuwing nakikita ko ung mga face ng mga girls sa FB tas nangangamusta sila sakin parang nadedepressed ako parang it was like dang parang gusto ko nang iredo ang buhay ko kasi napakauseless ng mga pinagagagawa ko amp.., syempre kahit papano close sila sakin at di maiwasan na magusap but i couldn't respond why i'm not talking, meeting to them anymore

[mykeldm22]

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dami pa mangyayari 16 ka palang kaya.. d kaya bading ka??? hehe joke lang po dapat e mag karoon ka na kahit takot ka para mag karoon ka ng exp. if dumating ung tym na mag ka problem alam mo magiging mangyari at gagawin

[cho]

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@cho_romano ..
opo 16 plang aq, yeah i was really like never to betray my friend. even if i really like the girl i'm willing to sacrifice, eh siguro mas karapat dapat siya

@josh .. yeah priority ayoko rin sa priority ang iba gusto ko rin ginugulgol ko ang oras ko sa girl eh

hmm normal lang po ba tlga tong nafefeel ko kasi tuwing nakikita ko ung mga face ng mga girls sa FB tas nangangamusta sila sakin parang nadedepressed ako parang it was like dang parang gusto ko nang iredo ang buhay ko kasi napakauseless ng mga pinagagagawa ko amp.., syempre kahit papano close sila sakin at di maiwasan na magusap but i couldn't respond why i'm not talking, meeting to them anymore

ngayon naman nagseself-pity ka pero ayaw mo naman magcommit? i can't really tell what's goin on with you..baka pwedeng umayos ka, you don't wanna regret forever of the things you could have done..and besides, you shouldn't get a gf just because you are pressured to have one, 16 ka pa lang, you should know your purpose why you are getting a gf and as you know commitment kicks in when you have one. kung titingnan mo maaga pa para sau para iconsider ang pagiging commited and stuff like that, marami ka pa marerealize na dapat iayos in other aspects of your life before you get into a commitment.

[josh0602]

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ngayon naman nagseself-pity ka pero ayaw mo naman magcommit? i can't really tell what's goin on with you..baka pwedeng umayos ka, you don't wanna regret forever of the things you could have done..and besides, you shouldn't get a gf just because you are pressured to have one, 16 ka pa lang, you should know your purpose why you are getting a gf and as you know commitment kicks in when you have one. kung titingnan mo maaga pa para sau para iconsider ang pagiging commited and stuff like that, marami ka pa marerealize na dapat iayos in other aspects of your life before you get into a commitment.

I agree.. di mo kailangan maawa sa sarili mo. As what we keep on saying, wag ka mapressure sa commitment kung di ka pa talaga ready. 16 years old is such a young age..you don't really need a girlfriend right now especially if you just feel pressured by the fact that you don't have one.

[xyprusdavid]

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hmm, I guess i'm still in the right path, i'll keep on moving. thanks po sa mga payo i really appreciate it. i was really down this days salamat po