GUYS: na naka experience ng mag two timer... help me naman oh

[katieful]

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i am having an affair to a SINGLE guy with a 9 years relationship with his GF. Me and BF is at the same place we almost live together na he visits GF once a month lang since nasa ibang bansa din si GF. Nasasakatan ako everytime aalis sya to visit GF but I cant let him see it kase aware ako na may GF sya una pa lang... I love him na sigurado ako dun tama bang umasa akong one day sa lahat ng pang-uunawa ko piliin nya ako?

He sacrifices din a lot for me, di na sila chat sa bahay he lied sa GF na wala syang net kase kasama ko sya lage mga 4 months ng ganun, di nya pinaparamdam sa aking second lady lang ako but whenever we talked he is saying that he can't leave the GF and i am afraid to ask more...

[mykeldm22]

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wag ka nalang mag tanung para di ka masaktan, pero alamin mo pa rin, para alam mo gagawin mo at matuto ka. kung mahal mo sya tiwala ka lang sana.

[Mark.perez69]

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The guy has everything at his advantage in this situation..

Sabi nga ng marami, including me, if you would love too much, always spare some for yourself..don't give everything.

All you can do is wait..which is a losing game..honestly.

In my honest opinion, you only got 5% out of 100 in winning the guy..

Better save yourself while it's early..

Good day..

(i don't know your story..i might as well be wrong)

God bless!

[bruised_and_burned]

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hi. i just finished posting a response sa regarding what to feel if you caught your partner in bed with another man/woman. di ko lang maiwasan basahin and mag comment dito.

katieful, payong kapatid lang sis, hanggang maaga itigil mo na. i am sure naman maganda ka at makakahanap ka pa ng lalake na mas deserving sa love mo. alam ko madaling sabihin pero mahirap gawin. i've been there before. may bf ako nun na alam ko naman na may gf pero kaya ako pumasok sa relationship was itong si lalake, panay sad story na kesyo magulo na ang relationship nila at on the brink of breaking up na sila. e ako naman si gaga naniwala. later on nalaman ko na buntis si gf nya. i confronted him and he admitted pero sabi nya ako ang mahal nya at ayaw nya pakasalan yung si gf. nagalit ako sa kanya and i broke up with him. sabi ko dapat pakasalan nya yung girl. and kung ako ang mahal nya bakit nya nabuntis si gf di ba? naawa din kasi ako dun sa girl. kaya kahit na mahal na mahal ko na si bf lumayo. balde baldeng luha din ang naubos ko pero i had to let go kasi unang una kung karapatan ang paguusapan, mas may k ung si gf kesa sa akin dahil pumasok ako sa buhay ni gf na silang dalawa na. nanggulo lang ako kumbaga. minsan kasi talaga mas mahirap gawin ang tama.

and katieful, ilagay mo na lang ang sarili mo sa place nung original. what if ikaw ang inaagawan? how would you feel? yan kasi ang turo sa aming magkakapatid ng parents namin. wag mong gagawin sa iba ang ayaw mong gawin sa yo ng kapwa mo. golden rule. and mahirap maging masaya kung alam mo na may taong masasaktan dahil masaya ka. hindi ka magkakaroon ng peace of mind pag alam mo na may umiiyak sa bawat kaligayahan mo. unless wala kang konsensya. pero i think meron kang konsensya sis kaya ka confused, di ba? otherwise, dedma ka lang at di ka na sana nag post dito.

payo lang yan sis. i am not judging you. i hope i helped in a way.

good luck to you sis...God bless you!

[father paradox]

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Basically before you entered the relationship, you had an agreement.
If you are not happy with the agreement, then you can talk about it in a rational manner.
Else just call the relationship quits.

This old fashioned rubbish about "advantage", "winning the guy" etc. It annoys me.
Is the woman like a cow or a dog ? I have to be a good dog or my owned will get rid of me.

The only question you should ask is :
Your BF is allowed to see other women, are you granted the same rights. Would your BF get angry if you had another BF/GF on the side. If he would, then the relationship is not fair.

[katieful]

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The guy has everything at his advantage in this situation..

Sabi nga ng marami, including me, if you would love too much, always spare some for yourself..don't give everything.

All you can do is wait..which is a losing game..honestly.

In my honest opinion, you only got 5% out of 100 in winning the guy..

Better save yourself while it's early..

Good day..

(i don't know your story..i might as well be wrong)

God bless!

@ mark :  all that you've said is fact. But its like how can I give up something that feels so right even from the start? how can i possible leave someone who hasn't harmed me without my knowledge? my bf is incredibly so great. he treats me well, a perfect guy/catch  in all aspect of all a woman could ever dream of.... everyday just the way he is makes me fall over and over that made me wished more and more to have him alone.

I know at the end someone has to cry, the biggest possibility that it could be me as you've said is near and yet getting out from this mess is so hard... i am taking your advise to save something for myself while crossing my fingers that all is gonna be well at the end.

[katieful]

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and katieful, ilagay mo na lang ang sarili mo sa place nung original. what if ikaw ang inaagawan? how would you feel? yan kasi ang turo sa aming magkakapatid ng parents namin. wag mong gagawin sa iba ang ayaw mong gawin sa yo ng kapwa mo. golden rule. and mahirap maging masaya kung alam mo na may taong masasaktan dahil masaya ka. hindi ka magkakaroon ng peace of mind pag alam mo na may umiiyak sa bawat kaligayahan mo. unless wala kang konsensya. pero i think meron kang konsensya sis kaya ka confused, di ba? otherwise, dedma ka lang at di ka na sana nag post dito.

payo lang yan sis. i am not judging you. i hope i helped in a way.

good luck to you sis...God bless you!

hi sis! thanks for the comment... yes ang daling sabihin pero ang hirap gawin...

aware akong may masasaktan at malamang ako yun... naagawan na din akong minsan i know how it hurts i didn't intend to be at this position but how can i suppressed my emotions, i have fallen to someone who has a prior commitment... the burden is all in me, kase alam ko ang lahat lahat samantalang si GF tiwalang tiwala... nakukunsensya ako, naiisip ko nalang pwede naman sigurong pangarapin tutal di pa naman cila kasal e.

[cho]

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he said he can't leave the girl? hmmmm...why don't you ask him kung saan pa pupunta ang relationship niyo? in a relationship, there should be a purpose or something to be achieved and look forward to and not just for the sake of display or collecting girls at the same time. dapat may kahihinatnan ang relationship na yan to make sense. he has to drop one, di naman pwedeng ganyan forever. if he couldn't leave that girl, then pano ka?

[cho]

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oh im sorry, nagpost pako..it seems like you getting it na from other members

[jo_jose69]

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the question is...are you happy with your relationship??? if yes..then go..enjoy it. that's the important thing..your happy..if you're not then it's time to let go

[katieful]

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he said he can't leave the girl? hmmmm...why don't you ask him kung saan pa pupunta ang relationship niyo? in a relationship, there should be a purpose or something to be achieved and look forward to and not just for the sake of display or collecting girls at the same time. dapat may kahihinatnan ang relationship na yan to make sense. he has to drop one, di naman pwedeng ganyan forever. if he couldn't leave that girl, then pano ka?

in all honestly i'll say to you guys we agreed that I should be fully aware that he cant promise anything because never he thought he could leave GF for another woman... i was  challenged then... he said walang pupuntahan toh, basta walang araw na malulungkot tayo puro kasiyahan lang... and that is true, we never fight all happiness. ayaw ko ng magtanong but i am feeling he loves me na din... someday when i have all the courage to ask once and for all kung san toh papaunta at kung may nagbago na...  pinapatigas ko pang puso ko para di nya mapansing nasaktan ako...

[katieful]

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the question is...are you happy with your relationship??? if yes..then go..enjoy it. that's the important thing..your happy..if you're not then it's time to let go

am happy subra kaya nga gusto ko na syang ariing akin lang e...

[jo_jose69]

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so nothing to worry..your happy...i think he's happy too..everybody's happy.. do not distress yourself with dark imaginings...

[father paradox]

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so nothing to worry..your happy...i think he's happy too..everybody's happy.. do not distress yourself with dark imaginings...

Exactly.
People get all wrapped around the "morality" issues.
So what if he is bonking another girl 2 days out of the month.

[knightofdawn]

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the moment you decide and agree with that set-up... you'll also take the consequence... malay mo inde lang kayong dalawa..may isa pa...or 2?

happy?until when?...