She suddenly wants to be "just friends"

[krst451]

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I met this girl a few months ago. We'd been hanging out as part of a group for a while, then recently started just hanging out together and texting each other basically all day.

After a few weeks of this, I asked if she wanted to be more than friends, and she did. We went on two dates after that. After the first one, she went on about how much fun she had and how she couldn't wait to see me again. She seemed really excited about me in general ("I had so much fun last night" etc.). But, after the second one, I asked her if she had fun, but she just said she was "struggling with the more than friends thing".

I tried to give her some time to think, but I couldn't help it and started asking questions. The only reason she would give is that she "thought she liked me that way, but now she doesn't think she does". When I asked her what caused her to change her mind, she said "You're cute, interesting, nice, and funny, so I don't really know why I don't like you in that way."

So, I was just wondering if anyone could give me some insight into what could possibly be going through her mind. I don't understand how she can list a bunch of reasons to like me, but then say that she doesn't.

I'm just so confused, and I feel like there must be something she isn't telling me. It's like she instantly went from being all excited to "feeling awkward".

Most importantly, I'm wondering if there's any hope...

Thanks!

[misSHAI'87]

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How much do you know the girl? sigurado ka bang single sya at walang ibang responsibilites nung naging kayo? Maraming dahilan yan, posibleng may bf/asawa na sya or anak di lang naamin sayo. Baka napag isip-isip nya siguro walang patutunguhan relasyon nyo kung ganun nga ang dahilan. Ewan ko, konklusyon ko yan, may kakilala kasi akong ganyan din ang naging sitwasyon.

Pero baka naman nabigla lang ung girl, akala nya gusto ka nya pero di pala. Pwede ring ganun.

[glennybot]

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hehe, same problem rin bro! haha, wag mo na itanong, kiss mo na lang siya . See what happens!

[L.U.N.A]

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baka kapatid xa nung "friend" ko?! parang ganyan din ang ginawa skin e.. hahahaha..

[L.U.N.A]

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after seeing your fb acct, and found out that ur affiliated with Global Information Network For Canadians.. hmmmmmmmm.. well, maxado lng cgruo aqng mapaghinala... niweiz.. march p nmn tong thread n to, necro-post n nga kung tutuusin, cguro nmn naka move on k n.. goodluck

[Probinsiano]

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How long have you two known each other?
It seems to me like you have no idea what she like and dislake

[cutequotes]

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give her some space, let her think about it and maybe she will come back to you and will want to be more than friends

[Gyongyos]

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The same happened to me not so long time ago, it was my fault because I didn't gave her enough space, I called her lots of times and I was angry when she didn't respond. Girls need space, make sure they feel good with you else they will break up and "downgrade" you to "just a friend".

[josh0602]

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There's still hope. But, I think she is just unsure of the situation. Maybe she still don't have an idea of where this "more-than-friends" relationship will go.

[pastor paradox]

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Probably the "nice" part killed it
Women for the most part do not want guys who are "nice".
Also women do not like men who seem "desperate".

Since you are part of a group, go as out one of the women friends from the group.
Then make sure she sees you going out on dates with this girl.

Then she will think this girl sees something in you that she does not, and become interested in you.
Or maybe you will like the other girl better, and say hell with this girl.
So either way you win.

[rhina-sam]

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ahahaha

[yuuki]

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bka naman kasi na turn off sau nung 2nd date neo kuya? wahahaha!!! o kea may nalaman xang eklabuuu!! waley leng., charot!

[vinz89]

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magaling siyang mag flirt .. naexperience ko na yan. halos di nagagawa ng mga ex ko.. pero xa nagagawa nya.. pero wala sa kanya un... gusto lang nya mag enjoy.. cguro ndi xa nag spark sau .. tanggapin mo nlng at kaw din ang mahihirapan sa huli...

[detsu]

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maybe she liked you at first because you were new to her sight then suddenly felt bored after experiencing how to be with you

[guile42]

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leave here alone for a while. she will come to you if she really wants you.