Confused... please help!

[DiorChanel]

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Ok, so I got a new job and there is this guy at my work who I felt instant strong attraction to the minute I set eyes on him. Since then, we haven't kept our eyes off each other! Its pretty intense. Ive caught him looking at me through the reflection (He had no idea and he was just starring for ages!).

We both first spoke when we both got lost in the car park after work (lol, the car park is huge!) and we laughed cause we both couldn't remember where we had parked! The next day we said hi and laughed again about the day before.

We both work in different departments so we really only see each other if we start or finish at the same time. So since the car park incident it again went back to the eye contact and the starring. When he would walk past my department, he made sure he walked past me, rather than from behind and said hi again.

Well tonight (on valentines day haha) we finished at the same time. We got out literally at the exact same time and without realizing he was beside me walking to the staff bus pick up that takes us to the car park. We said hi and started to really talk for the first time. He asked me a few questions and visa versa, where are you from, what did you do before this, etc. We laughed, it felt comfortable instantly. We had a lot in common. When I told him I can't wait to visit Italy and that I have family there, his face lit up "Your Italian too?".

Anyway, our quiet time was ruined by another employee who showed up "Hey guys" (Oh god I said to myself lol) haha. Anyway the other employee started talking to me and as we were talking (with him sitting to my right), he just kept starring at me as I spoke to her. (I felt so paranoid hoping I looked good lol) We went on the bus and she sat next to me and there was no more room so he stood beside us... This woman talks and talks so I really couldn't talk to him anymore but he was listening to our convo and turned his head in to try and be apart of it but really couldn't cause this woman won't let you fit a word in! lol

Anyway as she was speaking to me, I noticed in the reflection of the glass that he was starring at me the whole time! Now comes the confusing part... I think he has a GF!

I'm not a crazy stalker and I'm sure all us ladies use facebook as a "background check" haha and that I'm not the only one! haha Anyway I looked him up on facebook but its set on private! Yet there is a woman he is posing with in his display pic? Its seems to me to be a couple type of pose? I could get into his profile pic and it had her name under her pic (being a member of facebook this comes up automatically). Anyway I press on her name and she too has the same pic in her profile pic! Her page states that she is in a relationship but it doesn't state his name. Her page is so old, maybe a year old or so? She has had zero updates for like a year. It seems she also made his facebook account as she is his only friend and he has zero updates too.

Anyway to me this kinda proves that they are together and that he isn't single? I hope I'm wrong cause this is the guy Ive been looking for, you know when you just know? No doubts, that kind of strong chemistry and attraction. I'm so fussy with men and for the first time in a while I looked across the room and felt strong attraction, from there it was intense and when we finally really got into a conversation, I just knew. Can't explain it.

Now I'm just worried he isn't single and its driving me nuts. I don't want to get hurt.

[gothfried]

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well he's not yet courting you so i guess you should wait for him then when your close enough you can just ask him. maybe their not together anymore. you have said that his FB is not been updated for almost a year..

[DiorChanel]

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What does courting mean?

Yeah I hope they aren't still together but who knows. She signed him and herself up 2008 and her last update was feb 2009 with the same profile pic?

I'll explain in more detail...

With the facebook thing, he hasn't got any friends, just her. It seems she made him a facebook account but he has never used it. He has no updates, no posts, no friends but her. All he has on his page is "Welcome to Facebook" and that was dated in 2008!

When I checked her account, she too has the same profile pic and yes it says she is in a relationship but doesn't say to whom. Her only updates were adding friends and she added 4 people including him to her best friend list dated May 2008. She sent him some sushi icon thingy the same day. That's it. No updates, nothing.

Her last update was Feb 2009, that's a year ago now! So its all old info but still gives me a bit of an idea.

[DiorChanel]

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If courting is showing affection... well that would be awkward cause we barely get the chance to talk little own bond. lol. We work in different departments so the only time I get to see him (from across a distance is entering and leaving or going on a lunch break). We had our first real conversation (because there was an opportunity to do so) at the bust stop.

So far its strong attraction, body language, intense eye contact. Those sort of first signs of attraction. Ive caught him in the reflection more than once where he is just starring at me for ages! Ive also caught him smiling to his friend and talking about me when I entered his department (The only time Ive entered his department).

When he entered mine, I was standing near by as he was talking to our boss and the whole time we were just making eye contact, holding the gaze. I would look up and back down and it was constant till his conversation was over with our boss and he left. He makes a point to say hi to me when he walks past our department, where as he doesn't with any of the other woman working there.

And as I said earlier, when we had the opportunity to really have a proper conversation, it just flowed. We had so much chemistry and so much in common. We laughed and it felt like we knew each other for years... it was real comfortable. Of course I was nervous too but it didn't show. At the very beginning 9when I first got the job and noticed him) we were real nervous around each other when we were close, in the same area and around other employees. I would look up at him when he wasn't looking and I would look down knowing he was starring at me when I wasn't looking directly at hm. That sort of thing.

[grey]

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How long did u know each other then?is it months/years?..coz u said u just got that new job. Well, keep observing. or u may ask someone about him. Since u are new, u can reason out that ur just trying to know each and everyone in ur company(including those from other depts). About the esp connection, I do agree that body language is one way to communicate ur attraction to someone, if left unspoken. About his status..Do you think he's going out somewhere on the valentine's day, like a date?(lol i know u didn't ask him about it...i mean just ur instinct)..coz u just said u came out at the same time?....is it early when u got out?coz if its late, maybe he don't have a date..is he rushing or something?..haha., i dont know if those questions help,...(just trying..hehe)......btw,online stalking is really rampant(i for myself is not an exemption,hehe)

[Icebox]

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sure you're a gorgeous one. XD

that's normal. You know you're in love with that guys and you've felt this way for sometime now. You know he's just right for you. But when it comes to men, you really don't know what they want, what do they need, and you may ask, what's their intention?

to make it safe, be safe [XD] and avoid awkward moments. talk him in a casual way and limit your body languages or else you'll be misinterpret and ending up a prey. be aware of giving an impression to the guy.  most of us get interested if there is new chick near us. that's normal if he want to be close to you.